Recently went to a concert - kind of "Pop-country" if you will - with my wife and my in-laws. Surrounded by a lot of younger girls.
But there were two women - over 35 who caught my attention more than the younger girls.
One woman was just very social and outgoing. Her personality was kind of "bubbly." She seemed to be talking to everyone around her. She and her husband were both drinking beer - holding hands - and were both dancing together when the concert started. Yes - she was very "pretty" and a good dancer - but a lot of it was personality.
Then there were two women with their older daughters (kids were maybe 13 or so) sitting right in front of us. One of the daughters kept taking pictures of her mom. Her Mom was probably a few years older than 35 - and was again very "pretty." But I was just AMAZED at seeing a 13 year old daughter who genuinely seemed to be having a good time with her mother at a concert. Hard to explain - but my wife that night was dressed in a sparkly sliver shirt - showing cleavage - kept taking her own picture. To me - it felt like I was out with a 25 year old - and I don't mean that in a good way. And although the woman in front of us was dressed modestly, I couldn't help but "notice" her - almost like looking at her through her own daughter's eyes. I KNOW how my 11 year old would have reacted to my wife's "LOOK AT ME" behavior and appearance.
Not sure if this has made much sense. But - to try and sum up - the attaction was only partially physical. And secondly - a lot of it was me being attracted to something I think I'm missing. One woman - drawing attention to herself by just being bubbly. The other - looking like Mom of the Year. Contrasted by my wife - a 39 year old trying to look 10 years younger - taking her OWN picture to put on Facebook to SHOW everyone how much fun she's having.
Sorry to sound like I'm grading a school paper (and not that I'm a teacher) but I have to say this was well written, good insight, which speaks volumes about who you are too. I like how you conveyed the emotion, especially about seeing the woman through her daughter's eyes.
Subliminally he is. . .he's got the evolutionary drive of 1000's of ancestors before him telling him it's up to him and him alone to propagate their genes.
But I am sure he loves you too
actually it's me who wants to have more babies and he's ok with that coz he loves being a daddy.
Sorry to sound like I'm grading a school paper (and not that I'm a teacher) but I have to say this was well written, good insight, which speaks volumes about who you are too. I like how you conveyed the emotion, especially about seeing the woman through her daughter's eyes.
Thanks! Why do I find myself wanting to give you an apple...!!!
Ok, many great answers from the men for traits that make a woman attractive for you. Some pretty hilarious ones also.
So ...... let’s get to the second part of my question. How or when is the right time to approach her? When do you feel confident or comfortable to make your move, so to speak?
I’m not trying to sound vain but I’ve been told that I do supposedly possess traits/qualities you guys indicated. Am I so missing the boat on decent guys being interested in me and not picking up on the signals?
By decent guys, I’m so not referring to the kind of creepy internet/cable intallation guy who wasn’t at my house for all of 2 minutes before he stated I was beautiful and how lucky my husband was. (Of course, I never divulged to him there would be no “husband” residing in this house.)
Or the somewhat weird-ish pest control guy who commented I was “hot” and what all guys want in a girlfriend. Oddly, I was wearing jeans, t-shirt and trying on new hunting boots from Cabela’s which UPS had just dropped off 5 minutes before when my son came to me and stated someone else was ringing our doorbell. Being 16” snake boots, I couldn’t get them untied fast enough before I got to the door. Chalked the "hot" comment up to the guy being all of 20-ish years old. Point being, I do not dress in outfits which scream “Please notice me .... and all the skin on my female body!" I'm not completely against it and if needed, along with the appropriate setting, I can do hoochie attire. Definitely not an everyday thing for me though.
The majority of my friends are married with young children at home. The ones who are not married, are my guy friends and when we do something together, it is amazing how many people assume we are a couple. So here it is, a long weekend, my son has plans Friday and Saturday evening at friend’s houses, my few single friends have plans and I’m sitting at home alone all weekend. Something is so wrong with this picture because I’ve been doing that way too often.
I agree. What makes a woman approachable? Like what if you have all those characteristics, but men don't approach you. You might get the odd glance, but the guys don't come up to you. Some say I seem stuck up, but I smile warmly and make eye contact. Is something I do intimidating? The only ones that say something are the complete pervs. I'm kind of shy, so maybe I put out a negative vibe.
The only ones that say something are the complete pervs.
Ditto!!! It's not just that they are perverts, they are the creepy, almost mangy looking perverts too. I can handle the normal perverts. My ex-husband had plenty of those for friends. LOL!!!
Confidence and class. a woman who feels good about herself and is comfortable with her age is just plain beautiful, no matter what age she is. Maybe I'm just strange, but I think most women are beautiful in one way or another. I don't flirt with them and I don't hit on them cause I'm married, but I do admire and respect them. I think God's finest work was the female human. There's nothing better looking, better smelling, or more interesting on earth.
I can't wait to turn 30. As soon as people hear others answer the age question with twenty anything, the young person loses credibility. I am mature enough to admit that I don't know everything.
Whenever I hear the word "pervert", I answer, "Yes?"
To answer your question, I guarantee you 6, 7, or 8's are more approachable than 10's. Maybe the fact you are dressing down works to your advantage in these situations.
If it was Maryanne or Ginger and I was on Gilligans Island, 10:1 bet I'd ask Maryann out.
With those country dresses.
And pigtails.
And those innocent "Are you really going to do me?" eyes with eyelashes batting.
What were we talking about?
Oh yeah, how come the Professor could always fashion a radio out of some vines and coconuts but yet they couldn't build a raft to get off the island?
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And maybe I seem a bit confused. . .but maybe, I got you pegged! Ha! Don't know what to do about those tossed salad and scrambled eggs. . .they're posting again. Scannerguard has left the building.
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And maybe I seem a bit confused. . .but maybe, I got you pegged! Ha! Don't know what to do about those tossed salad and scrambled eggs. . .they're posting again. Scannerguard has left the building.
Other women always have an advantage compared to younger women especially in one thing; depth.
I've always tried to date older, rarely younger (for relationships ne way). My wife is close to her 30s now, (so am I, but a bit behind her), however I've been attracted to women even in their 30s-40s in the past before. However, for me at that time - it was rather awkward when I found out that her son was only 5 years my junior. >.<
Ok, many great answers from the men for traits that make a woman attractive for you. Some pretty hilarious ones also.
So ...... let’s get to the second part of my question. How or when is the right time to approach her? When do you feel confident or comfortable to make your move, so to speak?
I’m not trying to sound vain but I’ve been told that I do supposedly possess traits/qualities you guys indicated. Am I so missing the boat on decent guys being interested in me and not picking up on the signals?
By decent guys, I’m so not referring to the kind of creepy internet/cable intallation guy who wasn’t at my house for all of 2 minutes before he stated I was beautiful and how lucky my husband was. (Of course, I never divulged to him there would be no “husband” residing in this house.)
Or the somewhat weird-ish pest control guy who commented I was “hot” and what all guys want in a girlfriend. Oddly, I was wearing jeans, t-shirt and trying on new hunting boots from Cabela’s which UPS had just dropped off 5 minutes before when my son came to me and stated someone else was ringing our doorbell. Being 16” snake boots, I couldn’t get them untied fast enough before I got to the door. Chalked the "hot" comment up to the guy being all of 20-ish years old. Point being, I do not dress in outfits which scream “Please notice me .... and all the skin on my female body!" I'm not completely against it and if needed, along with the appropriate setting, I can do hoochie attire. Definitely not an everyday thing for me though.
The majority of my friends are married with young children at home. The ones who are not married, are my guy friends and when we do something together, it is amazing how many people assume we are a couple. So here it is, a long weekend, my son has plans Friday and Saturday evening at friend’s houses, my few single friends have plans and I’m sitting at home alone all weekend. Something is so wrong with this picture because I’ve been doing that way too often.
That's the conundrum. Thing is, its not you. Most guys are just to unsure of themselves to be willing to act on the signals. At our age, most are too out of practice also. To make it worse, you have unintentionally become elevated in our eyes for holding these characteristics.
Since I tend to be the alpha type, I'll admit that this is one area I tend to get into trouble. I just strike up conversations with anyone. I'm not trying to get into some inappropriate relationship.
I'll give a scenario: I drove a day to meet my son in Nashville recently. While killing time before his flight arrived, I went into our normal store chain for clothes. Needed athletic socks, but hate the cheap kinds. There was an attractive 40ish woman helping her son find pants. All the guys in the men's department were checking her out. She was simply beautiful. Refined and confident, and smiled. Not a one of the abviously single guys (no rings) made a move though, even though her son was staying away from her since there were older guys in the area.
They approached the area where I was looking, and here I am holding white socks. (I'll admit, I can't wear a ring for the job. Nearly lost my finger from doing so when I forgot to take it off while showing a guy how to set up a lathe for a new fuel injection component.) I held up the white pair while she was looking in my direction with a frown and said, "trust me, I don't intend to wear these with these pants." Since I was wearing casual khakis, she laughed and said, "Hey, maybe you're from up north?" With a little "What if I am?" banter, we were talking. (my secondary career is writing, so meeting people is a part of who I am)
My goofy intro gave her the chance to show that she was a warm person, who could smile even when a guy was lame. Not sure if some of the ones you meet aren't going to need a little help in breaking the ice.
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