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What makes a 35+ woman attractive to you?

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#1 ·
This is somewhat of a stolen thread topic concept from southbound. What makes a 35+ woman attractive to you guys? Also, what would make you have the courage to approach that woman and strike up a conversation if you noticed there was no wedding ring? Physical and personality traits are acceptable answers on this one. There truly are no wrong answers.

However, try to refrain from the whole “She needs to look like Carrie Underwood, Scarlett Johansson, Jessica Biel or Megan Fox,” because they are SOOOO not even close to 35 years old. I’m certain you guys would hate to have the ladies play the whole “He needs to look like Matthew McConaughey,” comparison card.

Have at it guys!
 
#3 ·
Looks like Sophia Vergara from Modern Family! j/k (sort of - I do like latin women and was lucky enough to marry one!).

well dressed, big laugh, sense of humor, cute smile, great hair, positive/fun attitude, good poise/posture, confidence, well educated, good taste in beer...and good old fashioned T&A doesn't hurt either!

There was a girl in college I had this crazy crush on, and she dipped. Normally this wouldn't be attractive, but because of all the above traits it made her that much sexier!
 
#10 · (Edited)
There are a LOT of beautiful women between 35-45 YO. The first thing that catches my eye is a great smile! Besides that a fun attitude, confidence, and doesn't have to have a perfect body but a woman that takes care of herself. An elegant look is more attractive than super casual I'd say. Heels not flip flops.

I'm 45 FWIW.
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#13 ·
It's different for everyone and can change over the years. By the time you're 35 you realize that some traits are not so great over the long haul but may be good for other reasons :rolleyes:. I'm from SoCal, 46 and spent a little time around hippies and bikers when growing up which has affected my taste in women. Before I was married I would approach women with the following traits:

Physical:
Natural looking with modest make-up.
Longish hair
Warm smile
Healthy alabaster skin. (my fixation)
Feminine with girlie curves but no rolls.
Good hygiene.
Smells nice but not overpowering.


Other Basics:
Good attitude with a sense of humor about life.
Not a princess with healthy levels of humility

In the end I think it comes down to a certain comfort level for each person. Everyones background is different so the best bet is to be yourself and attract the guy who is comfortable with who you are. However if you are not "approachable" then you could be waiting for a long time.
 
#14 · (Edited)
Things I find incredibly attractive about my 42 year old GF...

Intelligent. She has a degree, is well informed about many different topics
Self sufficient. Runs a business with a partner
Kind and caring. She's willing to give of herself, teaching adult education and literacy as a volunteer
Sensual. Loves to touch and be touched. Loves to be teased for hours or sometimes even days
Beautiful. My first thought when someone asked me to describe her was a 42 year old model. Blonde, blue eyes, just stunning!
Sexy. Even though she thinks she might have a few extra pounds, she still wants to wear lingerie or a bikini because she knows I like seeing her in them
Classy. Even on her worst days, she never looks like an escapee from Walmart. She doesn't over-dress, but she does like to look her best.
Sexual. She has fantasies and an imagination that blows my mind. And I haven't even thought of entertaining myself for months. I don't have the energy for it!

C
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#18 ·
I don't get the part about no wedding ring. the ring doesn't make it a "np deal". I get attracted to women who think they are attractive and who willingly display their sexuality. A "com hither look" will catch my eye far quicker than any other attribute.
Oh, and long legs and/or pert nipples will seal the deal. LOL
 
#33 ·
The thing that scares my wife the most is that it isn't the young women I find attractive, because she knows most of them look right past an older guy.

I am 44 and tend to find women in the 35-50 year old range that are well put together.....clothes, makeup, jewelry, a confident smile the most attractive. Someone said something about curves.....I think that is something that men appreciate more with age....or at least I do. Women like I've mentioned making eye contact and acknowledging our eye contact can tend to distract me.....and I'm not one to oogle women in public.
 
#35 ·
Not a justification or psychobabble. Read a book or at least watch some educational TV. We are just intelligent animals and there are underlying reasons for all our sexual behaviors. I agree that Halle Berry is hot but she doesn't exactly look like your typical 42 year old does she? She's a genetic wonder with unbelievable skin.
 
#41 ·
What does looks have to do with child bearing years? Absolutely nothing!! That is what makes your post psychobabble!!

Give me 100 18-22yr old 200lb woman or 1 40yr old with a hysterectomy and I know what I'm picking!!

Humans have free will jack the next thing you'll start spewing off about pheromones......or something.
 
#37 ·
I certainly find older women attractive. That doesn't mean I'd marry one. Jeez. . . Don't you all know it is the goal of marriage is to be productive as per the Catholic Church? You guys at Tam have a very romantic notion of marriage.

:)
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#38 ·
Yep. I had the big, huge Catholic Ceremony that my father absolutely reveled in. On the other hand, my ex-husband chose to no longer follow those same marriage guidelines we (as Catholics) were brought up to hold so true to our beliefs. That about sums up my inability to receive weekly communion at mass. Heartbreaking because I was also confirmed before I had even reached my twenties.
 
#39 ·
I am being tongue and cheek of course but there is an underlying message behind my humor. I usually reply here thru the filter of marriage ( mating for life ). I have never said anything about a shelf life; I have only spoken about optimal male-female pairing.

The truth is many of the women who get their panties in a wad at my assessments would be the strongest to overreact if their 26 up son brought home a 42 up female to meet you and said "gee whiz isn't she wonderful?"

As far as what makes a35 to female attractive. . .how come no man said boobs? A face will eventually become wrinkled... Boobs are forever.

(you can spare the references towards me ladies :). )
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#40 ·
I just KNEW you would be here. You did say that a woman over 40 is limited. Boobs aren't forever either. Ever see gravity? Sure, they are still there but after a while, they look like tube socks. Not saying mine do btw. :p
Okay, so a man needs a younger woman, got it. So you are saying that a 40 something year old man needs a 26 year old for what? Having kids? I don't know of any 40 something year old man who wants to have more kids. Let's just call it like it is. An old man who likes young and strange.

Welcome back Dr. Clean. We've missed you.
 
#44 ·
If she's 35 she'd have to not run away wierded out by this 53-year-old man! ;)

Pretty face, well groomed, interested, flirty, aware of the world, can hold a conversation, up for road trips, can drink a glass a wine and not be REALLY picky about food.

Not stuck up. Smile that lights up my heart.

And that's true for whatever age. Mainly within 10 years of mine.
 
#46 ·
Confidence and class. a woman who feels good about herself and is comfortable with her age is just plain beautiful, no matter what age she is. Maybe I'm just strange, but I think most women are beautiful in one way or another. I don't flirt with them and I don't hit on them cause I'm married, but I do admire and respect them. I think God's finest work was the female human. There's nothing better looking, better smelling, or more interesting on earth.
 
#49 ·
I asked my husband this question!

He said a lot of things which other posters said.

But then he added: A woman who has an organized life is very attractive. Her body is not quite like a 25 year-old, but still in a good shape, don't think like a 25 year-old and live like a 25 year-old!

A 35 year-old should be organized and mature!
 
#50 ·
I dated women 30+ since I left home at 18. My greatest seperation was a 47 year old at 19. What distinguished older women from younger ones was that older women played a lot less games and had more of an idea of what they wanted. You can really tell when you date both at the same time period. Physically, the same things that attract me to a young woman would attract me to a older woman.
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