10-13-2008, 07:24 PM
Join Date: Sep 2008
| | Re: Sureness in a relationship
I'm a bit unclear of your question as well. But, let me put it this way... TALK... Talk about your goals, wants, desires. Talk about his goals, wants, desires. Talk about how to achieve those goals individually and together. Figure out where your goals match. Or where they don't. The biggest issue after years of marriage is losing sight of the common goals, and working only on your individual goals. Each person in a relationship is responsible for themselves. But, each person is also responsible for their partner achieving their goals. You can't have one person attaining their own goals while the other person "goes by the wayside." So, talk about those things now. Hey, at least you will find out if your partner will be supportive of you.