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Old 06-07-2011, 07:50 PM   #181 (permalink)
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Revenge is a very specialized emotion. Most people aren't built for it. It's toxic. The best thing you can do is flower into the greatest woman and greatest person you can love.
Be careful that you don't let the idea of revenge ruin who you are!
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Old 06-07-2011, 08:28 PM   #182 (permalink)
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VH, you seem to be the only person who can tell your SIL the truth. Yes it MIGHT help her not get taken to the cleaners in the divorce, if he has a history. At this point, her best choice, IMO, would be to get as much of his money as possible.
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Old 06-07-2011, 08:31 PM   #183 (permalink)
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Revenge is a very specialized emotion. Most people aren't built for it. It's toxic. The best thing you can do is flower into the greatest woman and greatest person you can love.
And do it with HIS money.
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Old 06-07-2011, 08:33 PM   #184 (permalink)
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And do it with HIS money.
You're joking right?
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Old 06-07-2011, 09:59 PM   #185 (permalink)
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If HE cheats on you, wants YOU out, and has hidden money in secret accounts so he doesn't have to share the assets once he dumps you...hell no I'm not joking.
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Old 06-08-2011, 08:39 AM   #186 (permalink)
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VH, you seem to be the only person who can tell your SIL the truth. Yes it MIGHT help her not get taken to the cleaners in the divorce, if he has a history. At this point, her best choice, IMO, would be to get as much of his money as possible.

I have no idea what "SIL" means.

I E-mailed him yesterday morning for a check and I have no heard from him.
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Old 06-08-2011, 08:45 AM   #187 (permalink)
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Morning VH...how ya holding up honey?
Rough night. No real deep sleep. Just an hour here and there.
A little anxious this morning.

I E-mailed him yesterday morning to mail be a check because I need to pay bills but he hasn't responded to my E-mail.

I can tell already that this "money" aspect is going to be a sore spot with him.

I can keep the furniture, a home, my car, my collections BUT money is a whole different ballgame.

This DID bring a smile on my face: He paid his sec'y 30K.
That's 5K a month for their 6 month affair.

I've been with him 29 years, 248 months @ 5K a month =
$ 1,740,000.00

I know it doesn't matter in legal terms.

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Old 06-08-2011, 08:46 AM   #188 (permalink)
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If HE cheats on you, wants YOU out, and has hidden money in secret accounts so he doesn't have to share the assets once he dumps you...hell no I'm not joking.
The "joking" part was you saying do it with his money. After 28 years of marriage, their is no "his" money. It's theirs. That's what I was saying.
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Old 06-08-2011, 08:52 AM   #189 (permalink)
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sil=sister in law


is there anyway you can get access to the marital funds yourself without depending on him to give it to you? gives him more power over you if you have to ask him for money.

if you're on the accounts,you can make a withdraw without asking him for anything.
Please don't "yell" or "lecture me" or "preach to me" about this one:

I know basically NOTHING about our financial assets.

I do not even know what he makes per year.

I do know that our Accountant and Merrill Lynch Advisor are his friends and he speaks with them ofter.

He has been signing my name on documents for years. I knew he did this but I do not know how often he did this.

Concerning his brother: He is very very very wealthy. He doesn't even care that he has to split half with my SIL.

Two shrew brothers.
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No mediation for this gal.

Besides, Turnera will slap me silly if I see a mediator with my husband.

And I promised her that I wouldn't and I always keep my promises AND my marriage vows.
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Old 06-08-2011, 09:04 AM   #191 (permalink)
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Glad to hear that.

BTW, I agree with your complaint about the negative and mean delivery of the message. Everyone can benefit from identifying weaknesses and deficiencies. But imo, you need help getting through what is right in front of you now, with love and encouragement. One step at a time on this stuff. Past that, nobody here is a professional and this stuff is best dealt with that way. And, big pet peeve, one size does not fit all!

Keep on truckin, VH.

Did he respond about $? If not, I'd go to your lawyer right away on this issue for temporary maintenance.
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Old 06-08-2011, 09:09 AM   #192 (permalink)
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No mediation for this gal.

Besides, Turnera will slap me silly if I see a mediator with my husband.

And I promised her that I wouldn't and I always keep my promises AND my marriage vows.
I'd lob ya with a 2x4.
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I'd lob ya with a 2x4.

OUCH.............a 2 by 4 ????
I promise you too Bright Eyes.
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Old 06-08-2011, 09:34 AM   #194 (permalink)
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If you look at my portfolio, it is really clear that I'm clueless about $!
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Old 06-08-2011, 10:39 AM   #195 (permalink)
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Holy #$#@, Im a guy and this just pisses me off your H. You should have fired him instead of that secy and blackmailed him with her if he gave you trouble about it. Make friends with the enemy first so you can use that for ammo.

Gud luck, this site depresses me...
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