Check with your attorney, I have known a few people who went through this and I believe once the paperwork is filed. Your H has to maintain the household throughout the proceedings.
BTW, I agree with your complaint about the negative and mean delivery of the message. Everyone can benefit from identifying weaknesses and deficiencies. But imo, you need help getting through what is right in front of you now, with love and encouragement. One step at a time on this stuff. Past that, nobody here is a professional and this stuff is best dealt with that way. And, big pet peeve, one size does not fit all!
Keep on truckin, VH.
Did he respond about $? If not, I'd go to your lawyer right away on this issue for temporary maintenance. Posted via Mobile Device
He has not responded to my money request via E-mail.
I just had our outdoor grille repaired and had to pay the repairman. Little things like this are happening. It's NOT like I'm having mani, pedis, facials or fancy clothes. I'm paying my Physical Therapy Co-Pays, IC bills, sprinkler man etc....
I hope I am not intruding. I am new here as of this post, I have my own marriage problems, that are different from yours and reading this thread has been a nice diversion, I hate to say it.
Regarding Mediation, If I get divorced I would like mediation, but then I would like a fair settlement and I don't think of the community assets as mine only. Your husband has demonstrated that he will avoid a fair settlement and get everyrhing he can for himself. Mediation is a bad idea under such circumstances.
His refusal to send money for your living expenses makes me wonder. Can you get a freeze on the financial assets? If you are going to get stuck, he might as well too. Although he may have money stashed in preparation for such an event. He has no business going on as usual and leaving you nothing to cover your expenses. It is your money, the only thing left to determine is what proportion, but a good chunk of it is yours period. He should not be holding back general living expenses.
Good for you for getting on with life. I know you have a long history, and probably many good memories mixed in with the bad, but you deserve better than that cad and I bet you will not have a hard time finding it being older and wiser now.
I saw you lament that at your age it may not be as easy as if you were in your twenties. I don't know about that, when you are ready there are many more high tech ways to meet people you have things in common with than when you were in your twenties (when you are ready) , and any man around your age is not honestly expecting to be dating twenty year olds anyway, Hold your head high, you sound like a terrific lady, no more BS!
You've got the lawyer retained, right? Send him an email today that says "Husband is not paying the bills. I need monetary support TODAY."
Let your lawyer get it from him.
My Attorney received my signed Retainer Agreement with my check of $7,500.00 on Monday afternoon BUT I have NOT heard from her or her sec'y since then.
My son is here to help me with some lightbulbs and hose-bibbs etc.... He warned me that "Dad is NOT going to want to start writing you checks."
I hope I am not intruding. I am new here as of this post, I have my own marriage problems, that are different from yours and reading this thread has been a nice diversion, I hate to say it.
Regarding Mediation, If I get divorced I would like mediation, but then I would like a fair settlement and I don't think of the community assets as mine only. Your husband has demonstrated that he will avoid a fair settlement and get everyrhing he can for himself. Mediation is a bad idea under such circumstances.
His refusal to send money for your living expenses makes me wonder. Can you get a freeze on the financial assets? If you are going to get stuck, he might as well too. Although he may have money stashed in preparation for such an event. He has no business going on as usual and leaving you nothing to cover your expenses. It is your money, the only thing left to determine is what proportion, but a good chunk of it is yours period. He should not be holding back general living expenses.
That's part of the problem. He thinks its HIS money because he worked for it. I contributed with paychecks for about 7-8 years.
Good for you for getting on with life. I know you have a long history, and probably many good memories mixed in with the bad, but you deserve better than that cad and I bet you will not have a hard time finding it being older and wiser now.
I'm trying to hold it together. I wouldn't say that I'm getting on with my life. I cry myself to sleep every single night.I saw you lament that at your age it may not be as easy as if you were in your twenties. I don't know about that, when you are ready there are many more high tech ways to meet people you have things in common with than when you were in your twenties (when you are ready) , and any man around your age is not honestly expecting to be dating twenty year olds anyway, Hold your head high, you sound like a terrific lady, no more BS!
No one will ever want a 56 year old women who has to wear an AFO brace on her leg. Trust me.
I didn't want to post this but this is another reason why my husband does not want me.
And you called the lawyer to set up an appt? Posted via Mobile Device
My Attorney's sec'y said that they will write a letter to my husband that they are representing me etc....
I will review the letter.
If I approve it, they will mail it to him via certified mail.
I E-mailed then yesterday and asked when will they be composing the letter to him.
I have not heard from them.
Re: Men: Will you please translate this for me? 
