Is she certified crazy?!?
OK Here is a quick synopsis,
A couple years ago I had Nice guy Syndrome bad. Slowly but surely I came out of it. (during a deployment mainly) I began coming out of it by myself so I was not doing th greatest job and still making many mistakes. My wife has been in constant contact with an EX for about a year. She swears they are just friends and has not seen him. Before she finally moved out she would make frequent trips home (where her family and her Ex is) she moved out about a month ago. I recieved a tip that her EX is in town for a month, this is his first trip out of his state. I have a great job, im a great father, take my daughter to church, in great shape and have learned self control. He is a loser, no job, in and out of Jail, drug user, and a "smotherer"
He is always putting things out on the web about his "girl" which is my wife, but he is really secret and whenever he puts something on her page she deletes it.
When My wife moved out I began studying religously about being the man I want to be, this site included. Many of the book you all have mention have helped greatly. I am not yet where I want to be but im on the right track
Now for the weird part, right before he came to town, my wife sent me a message saying that she does not want a divorce, and that one day she thinks she could be marriage material (we have been married for 4 years.) All I said was "That is good" Sunday (the day after he got there) I was to text her when I get out of church as I was bringing my daughter to be with her for a few days) then it was changed to oh no I will pick her up.
When she arrived I told her that Her Ex was in town and she said she did not know he was here and how did I know, I would not reveal how i knew but said he was pretty loud about it on the web, she demanded to know how I knew, I refused gave my toddler daughter a hug smile and waved as she sped of, a few seconds later I get a call for her crying saying why wont you tell me how you know, and that if i would start telling her stuff she would want to be with me. I held my ground and didnt tell her, I told her i believe her that she didnt know he was there, (i dont) and to be careful, she said I really do not want to see him and I want to be with you, I said just call me if you get into trouble.
Has she gone crazy? I still love my wife and wish we could work things out but she constantly lies, and something does not seem right.
P.S. Thanks for all the wisdom you all have put on this forum it has helped tremendously