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Old 07-09-2011, 12:58 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Anyone in here have a happy marriage and sleep in separate beds? I'm considering it because my wife and I are on different schedules and I don't like being disturbed when I sleep.
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My H and I have had seperate bedrooms since our first yr of marriage. I'm a light sleeper and he snores
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Old 07-09-2011, 02:10 PM   #3 (permalink)
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my husband snores, not bad all the time, he hogs the bed, the covers...gets up every hour to use the bathroom, and has no reguards for the other person that was sleeping....


no we have NEVER slept in seperate beds......and i wont either. thats the one time a day when he is calm, and lovin and cute and cuddly, i aint fu(kin that up, just cuz he likes more covers...


did you think of trying different beds, like a sleep number, or that memory foam, change pillows, make rules for night time habits, like bathroom, like not turning on the lights where you are..

and smoking and heavy drinking causes louder and more annoying snores, alergies also factor in.
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We do and always have. He has lots of trouble sleeping and does all sorts of weird sleep-walking type stuff. Possibly dangerous for me. He's not used to sleeping with anyone and being overtired makes both of us cranky. Works out fine for the most part. We just have to make sure to get in enough cuddle time.
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Anyone in here have a happy marriage and sleep in separate beds? I'm considering it because my wife and I are on different schedules and I don't like being disturbed when I sleep.
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What do you mean? Like two twins pushed together or early 60's sitcom two beds separated by a nightstand?
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Old 07-09-2011, 08:42 PM   #6 (permalink)
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My wife and I work different schedules and much prefer seperate beds most of the time. Infact, she sleeps in our spare room which is on the other side of the house, and we have a happy sex filled marriage going on 3 years.
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Old 07-09-2011, 08:54 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Anyone in here have a happy marriage and sleep in separate beds? I'm considering it because my wife and I are on different schedules and I don't like being disturbed when I sleep.
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I have not tried this.

I can say that working on separate shifts from my wife caused my marriage some siginificant extra strain a dozen years ago. We did this for about 18 months. You do what you have to do though.

We did not do the separate bed thing. That was not an issue for us, thank goodness. Separate sleeping arrangements would have caused a lot more issues for us.

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Old 07-09-2011, 09:22 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I can relate to this and she is using it to end marriage.I worked nites she worked days.We did this for special needs kids full coverage of children.Little guy has autism and sleeps with her and she snores.I drive for a living and need sleep.We would have our moment then I would bring lil guy up with her kiss her goodnite she said luv youand all got a good nites rest.Goddamn facebook she meets and old friend from 34 years ago.spends weekend at his place..Kicker eh? How about staying a week 2 months latter.Try walking that off.So now she plays the youve been sleeping over there for 3 years.And marriarge is over.HOw sweet...Me working 2 jobs doing 75 percent od housework and 70 percent of caring for kids.Actually 3 special needs kids and shes hang with her frinds.WHAT DO WOMEN WANT.IM turning gay from this moment on>>>>>>>>
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Old 07-09-2011, 10:04 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Makes me think of my wifes great grandparents. Her great grandmother passed a few years ago but I was confused when I first met them. They were still married, saw each other every day but lived in seperate building down the street from each other. At first I thought they were divorced, then I thought maybe they were seperated and just didn't feel like spending the money or going through the hassle of a divorce. When I finally asked what was going on it was explained to me that when they are constantly together they drive each other nuts. But living seperately they could visit each other whenever they wanted and everything was loving. Kind of funny.
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The reason I ask is because I work one week on, one week off from 7pm to 7am. My wife works m-f 8am-6pm. Her hours can vary. She's always waking me up when I try to sleep and stays up late. Her taking prescription diet pills keep her wired, but that's another issue. It's almost like she has no respect for me when I sleep. She turns lights on, blow dries her hair, banging cabinets, etc... Are marriage is on the rocks for sure but I'm thinking about making her sleep in the spare bed room which might help me get a good night sleep. I probably just need a divorce. If it wasn't for my daughter I'm sure it would have already happened.
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The reason I ask is because I work one week on, one week off from 7pm to 7am. My wife works m-f 8am-6pm. Her hours can vary. She's always waking me up when I try to sleep and stays up late. Her taking prescription diet pills keep her wired, but that's another issue. It's almost like she has no respect for me when I sleep. She turns lights on, blow dries her hair, banging cabinets, etc... Are marriage is on the rocks for sure but I'm thinking about making her sleep in the spare bed room which might help me get a good night sleep. I probably just need a divorce. If it wasn't for my daughter I'm sure it would have already happened.
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She is a little like my husband. He turns on the light when looking for socks, underwears clothes and he would wake me up in the middle of night if he can't find something or wants to criticize me about something he saw. I don't. I would stay in the dark for min. looking for whatever and try not to make noises or disturb him. We are not the same I know, and I get mad sometimes with him, but I never thought of sleeping in different rooms. He would not accept it, but either do I.

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Sitting here reading this i got to wonder, and i'll be damned! we have been sleeping in seppart beds for over ten years..........
except for last friday she slept in the same bed as me. but not when i went up, after i sent her a txt and asked if she was coming to bed @ 2 in the morning!!............because her sister was in town and she was off working finally for a night...... (she works graveyard shift) and never get to see her.........she sleeps downstairs in the family room were i converted an old futon to except a twin matteres. (5 years ago).
the two weeks her sister was here she did sleep upstairs tho. but i was up by then.........
forgot to add theres a major strain on our marrige tho.....
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Yeah, unless the marriage is firing on all cylinders, separate beds is not advisable... I was sleeping in the spare bed for (any stupid) reason, and before you know it we were basically roomates. It sucked and was probably a huge factor in the breakup.
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My wife conks out at 830, usually snoring like a bear on the sofa in the family room. If she wakes up when I go up to bed, fine. If not, throw a quilt on her. At some point she will come upstairs I think. But if she conks out in bed, which often happens during an extended yakfest on the phone, I have to sleep somewhere else. She's left all the lights on and the TV and if anything changes, the slightest thing, she'll wake up and get completely wound up fuming pissed off at nothing. It will just keep me awake.

Right now I happen to be in the middle of a conference call that will run another half hour. I'll rack out in the office when it's done. No point in poking the bear.
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Old 07-19-2011, 01:06 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I've been getting up early to get some extra work done for a couple of weeks so I've been crashing on the couch so my alarm doesn't wake the beast.

She's sleeping better and since I'm not allowed to touch her, I fail to see the difference.

2 nights ago I was in the bed though so I could have a sleep in and she must've woken me up 3 or 4 times.

Couch comfy, bed (almost) irrelevant.
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