Situation-
Wife brings in bratwurst of the grill and announces that lunch is done. I walk into the kitchen, and start to grab a plate out of the cabinet. She uses the scolding tone of voice to say "I just did dishes, use something else". I gave her the angry eye, grabbed a paper plate and walked away. 5 minutes later she asked why I got mad at her (I finally processed the whole thing), and told her that it was unacceptable that she told me not to use a plate like she would address a child. She wanted to argue that "she asked me to use something else", and when I repeated exactly what she said, she said "Fine. I just did dishes, use something else". I told her that was unacceptable (again), and she replied "so you get to be all alpha and I don't? I don't think so".
My response of "That's the way it works" didn't sound all that great. I Know this is going to come up again, suggestions?
Wife brings in bratwurst of the grill and announces that lunch is done. I walk into the kitchen, and start to grab a plate out of the cabinet. She uses the scolding tone of voice to say "I just did dishes, use something else". I gave her the angry eye, grabbed a paper plate and walked away. 5 minutes later she asked why I got mad at her (I finally processed the whole thing), and told her that it was unacceptable that she told me not to use a plate like she would address a child. She wanted to argue that "she asked me to use something else", and when I repeated exactly what she said, she said "Fine. I just did dishes, use something else". I told her that was unacceptable (again), and she replied "so you get to be all alpha and I don't? I don't think so".
My response of "That's the way it works" didn't sound all that great. I Know this is going to come up again, suggestions?