I was talking a with a guy just last night about this subject. He said he was simply bored with the same routine with his wife, and so he cheated on her, broke her heart, and then ended the marriage because he felt he might hurt her again. He was an extrovert and she was an introvert..I found it interesting. He said they were seeing each other again and that he did miss the familiarity that went along with the relationship, ie her knowing him more than anyone else..all of that stuff.
I found it really interesting that he said he cheated on her simply because he got bored, and that the routine was something he always could expect.
He said, a man needs to have some "mistery" in the relationship with a woman to keep him happy. What do you guys think?
I was talking a with a guy just last night about this subject. He said he was simply bored with the same routine with his wife, and so he cheated on her, broke her heart, and then ended the marriage because he felt he might hurt her again. He was an extrovert and she was an introvert..I found it interesting. He said they were seeing each other again and that he did miss the familiarity that went along with the relationship, ie her knowing him more than anyone else..all of that stuff.
I found it really interesting that he said he cheated on her simply because he got bored, and that the routine was something he always could expect.
He said, a man needs to have some "mistery" in the relationship with a woman to keep him happy. What do you guys think?
BS...if you are bored than it is your responciblity to communicate the problem and work on solutions. After ten years of being with my wife I have never been "bored", but than again we communicate well.
People that chear are weakminded and weak spirited. Man or woman. Selfish-Me,me,me types. I am not getting what I need! How about your partners needs? If you are fullfilling those-you probably won't even consider the thought of cheating. Oh yeah, they are insecure also. Lowerring your standards often happens to make you feel better about yourself. This always bites you later. I think the simple "quick" answer is that men like it when a woman builds his ego some. I think men and women are carbon copies of each other in that regard. Compliments do wonders.
Guys cheat because it's a natural urge we have to share our man-juice with every breathing thing with mammary glands (within the same species). It does require some small effort to concentrate and commit to a single monogamous relationship. Women on the other hand were designed and instinctively demand a monogamous relationship.
Wow, lots of different responses. It feels good to hear some of the ones from those that seem satisfied at home..so why roam?
Draconis..never bored..that's awesome, Soccerman...as well, but you know it's MUCH more than just sex, right? What you have with her has to be much more.
The guy that was on Oprah recently and whom did a study on the subject said the biggest reason men cheat is because of "lack of emotional connection" with their wives. I guess that would cover a lot of the categories like "boredom, excitement, communication, etc."
Melancholy, I got a kick out of yours..but there may be something to that...and voivod, yes I did see something on the tube about nature and how the animal world is very promiscuous..including birds. While the male is keeping the nest warm the female is getting it in the bushes from another!
Magicsunseto8, I think you are right that a man needs his wife to let him know he is her hero, ie build him up. Maybe we women fall short in that arena sometimes. You guys need to be made to feel you are honored (just like we do)
Greatermindset, what do you think the 6 needs we have are?
I always viewed it as "an affair is a waste of time and money"
Why would I spend my money to sneak around, to try and hide someone....for sex?
Sex is sex....what is the difference between having sex with my wife and some strange woman besides a cheap thrill? well expensive really.
Why hurt my wife? why hurt my kids? why hurt my siblings? Why go through a bitter divorce.....for sex???
to me sex is sex....what I ahve with my wife is so much more and not worth ever losing.
he says why in the hell would somebody have an affair? you asked for reasons why. he's giving you reasons why a rational person WOULDN'T. i just don't think someone who would cheat is in their rational mind at the time. and sex is so relatively available at home (i'd think) so why go somewhere else to get it and jeopardize everything.
Why do men cheat? 
