Wifes views on the financial side of our relationship have also been a bit strange. We have joint account but she takes no interest at all. Not too bad with spending and will defer to me to make spending decisions fair enough. But sometimes I get a bit annoyed that she seems to think money is "my department" and nothing to do with her.
Anyway, this one really takes the biscuit today. She started a new job recently which involves driving around. There was an issue setting up the system but its done now but basically her employer owes 3 months expenses which if she doesn't do soon it'll be too late and she'll lost the lot. Probably £500 owed by now.
Wife as usual has made no effort to do so. Past experience shows me if I don't do she never will. Remember money is my department in her head. So I said look I'll help if you like. Its done online so let me have the user/password. OK she said.
So tonight I said, I cant login, if you get chance tomorrow can you check password etc for me? She went off on one saying I always mentioned this late at night and was nagging her about these expenses, bullying her and on a power trip. I didnt even realise I always mentioned it late at night - I just remembered now!
WTF. I said look I'm trying to help is all. I did point out that it was her expenses after all so I got no benefit from sorting it out personally. Same old though - even though its her expenses, its money so its my problem. Its almost as if shes doing me a favor by letting me talk about it.
I'm livid I must admit. I did point out to her that if this was her account and her spending money that was £500 short she might be a bit more interested. And that having a dig at me was really ungrateful.... But she just doesnt see it. In her head, its something I want sorted out and I'm bullying/nagging her.
Now I would love to say sod it do the expenses yourself but she'd just lose the money is all. I'd be the one left shuffling the finances.
I guess the problem is there is no incentive for her to sort it out. Me mentioning it is just hassle for her in her head. As far as she is concerned she still gets to spend money if expenses are paid or not. Awful attitude indeed.
Yes, I will admit I can be a bit anal sometimes. I like to get things sorted. But even so surely the thing is if she really was not in the mood all she had to say was "Look can we talk about this later I know you're helping me but is that ok?"
Now I'm sitting here thinking how on earth can she think like this? It scares me sometimes that shes so irrational. I always say to her that if you told a person in the street some of the things she says/has opinions on they'd incredulous. It defines believe sometimes - worse at that time of the month mind (like now). See my other post.
Comments? What should I do? I am tempted to step away a little and see what happens if Im honest....
Anyway, this one really takes the biscuit today. She started a new job recently which involves driving around. There was an issue setting up the system but its done now but basically her employer owes 3 months expenses which if she doesn't do soon it'll be too late and she'll lost the lot. Probably £500 owed by now.
Wife as usual has made no effort to do so. Past experience shows me if I don't do she never will. Remember money is my department in her head. So I said look I'll help if you like. Its done online so let me have the user/password. OK she said.
So tonight I said, I cant login, if you get chance tomorrow can you check password etc for me? She went off on one saying I always mentioned this late at night and was nagging her about these expenses, bullying her and on a power trip. I didnt even realise I always mentioned it late at night - I just remembered now!
WTF. I said look I'm trying to help is all. I did point out that it was her expenses after all so I got no benefit from sorting it out personally. Same old though - even though its her expenses, its money so its my problem. Its almost as if shes doing me a favor by letting me talk about it.
I'm livid I must admit. I did point out to her that if this was her account and her spending money that was £500 short she might be a bit more interested. And that having a dig at me was really ungrateful.... But she just doesnt see it. In her head, its something I want sorted out and I'm bullying/nagging her.
Now I would love to say sod it do the expenses yourself but she'd just lose the money is all. I'd be the one left shuffling the finances.
I guess the problem is there is no incentive for her to sort it out. Me mentioning it is just hassle for her in her head. As far as she is concerned she still gets to spend money if expenses are paid or not. Awful attitude indeed.
Yes, I will admit I can be a bit anal sometimes. I like to get things sorted. But even so surely the thing is if she really was not in the mood all she had to say was "Look can we talk about this later I know you're helping me but is that ok?"
Now I'm sitting here thinking how on earth can she think like this? It scares me sometimes that shes so irrational. I always say to her that if you told a person in the street some of the things she says/has opinions on they'd incredulous. It defines believe sometimes - worse at that time of the month mind (like now). See my other post.
Comments? What should I do? I am tempted to step away a little and see what happens if Im honest....