Hello. I have been seeing a man since October and here's the short version. He is not married but is going through a custody battle for his 18 month old. To keep this short there were some other things going on and, since we met, he found out he may be going to rehab for a year.
So I am usually cool as a cucumber but I start pouring out my feelings. So I think he's gone and he texts me one night asking why I went from being crazy about seeing him to nothing and I was like..., "oh, you are home!? I thought you were gone!" So we hang out again a couple of times. He says now it is just going to be 10 months and he's leaving in a week.
So when it has almost been a week he texts me, "take care," and, "bye," and I'm like, "can I see you one more time before you go?" and he says, "no." So again...I think he's gone and start dealing with missing him and keeping myself busy.
Then last night I get a text from him that says, "I should know later in the week." and that is all he says. I respond back...., "okay, it feels so good to hear from you " and he says nothing. I have been listening to this relationship advice stuff and it says for women to use feeling words when talking to men so I was trying it out and feel stupid now like that was a dumb response. Like I should have said, "know what? where you are going?"
So it has been a day now...and he still hasn't responded. Now this guy is very busy and has told me he blocks everyone out...his mom...me...etc...and early on when we met he told me that he was glad when I kept texting and calling and calling him out on how he blocks me out. He says he is insecure.
But I'm confused about that last text. I guess I have been so spoiled by my last boyfriend who pretty much held a constant conversation with me ALL day though texts (compared to this). So sure maybe this guy is more distant. But do you have any idea if that last text he sent me might be followed up by something in the next day or so or do you think it sounds like he sent that text to me by accident? I asked if it was meant for me and that I felt silly for asking that but still no reply.
Wouldn't you at least respond and say, "sorry that text was meant for someone else." ? Because...if he really didn't want to hear from me would he have bothered to say, "take care," and, "bye," when he thought he was leaving?
So I am usually cool as a cucumber but I start pouring out my feelings. So I think he's gone and he texts me one night asking why I went from being crazy about seeing him to nothing and I was like..., "oh, you are home!? I thought you were gone!" So we hang out again a couple of times. He says now it is just going to be 10 months and he's leaving in a week.
So when it has almost been a week he texts me, "take care," and, "bye," and I'm like, "can I see you one more time before you go?" and he says, "no." So again...I think he's gone and start dealing with missing him and keeping myself busy.
Then last night I get a text from him that says, "I should know later in the week." and that is all he says. I respond back...., "okay, it feels so good to hear from you " and he says nothing. I have been listening to this relationship advice stuff and it says for women to use feeling words when talking to men so I was trying it out and feel stupid now like that was a dumb response. Like I should have said, "know what? where you are going?"
So it has been a day now...and he still hasn't responded. Now this guy is very busy and has told me he blocks everyone out...his mom...me...etc...and early on when we met he told me that he was glad when I kept texting and calling and calling him out on how he blocks me out. He says he is insecure.
But I'm confused about that last text. I guess I have been so spoiled by my last boyfriend who pretty much held a constant conversation with me ALL day though texts (compared to this). So sure maybe this guy is more distant. But do you have any idea if that last text he sent me might be followed up by something in the next day or so or do you think it sounds like he sent that text to me by accident? I asked if it was meant for me and that I felt silly for asking that but still no reply.
Wouldn't you at least respond and say, "sorry that text was meant for someone else." ? Because...if he really didn't want to hear from me would he have bothered to say, "take care," and, "bye," when he thought he was leaving?