Sexually conservative wife/GF starts introducing new positions during sex.
Say you've been with your God-fearing wife/gf for over 6-7 years and know her well in bed by now. She's always been on the conservative side, kind of just goes with the flow and never takes the lead and never tried anything new.
You go through a 4-month separation. She swears she wasn't intimate with anybody during that time. But you notice her wanting to move into new positions now that she didn't use to.
Men, gut instinct, is this an innocent woman wanting to explore her sexuality in new ways with her husband? If so, where did she learn some of these new positions, porn, women's store-shelf magazines?
Or is this a woman who slept with other men during the separation sowing her wild oats and was introduced to new things?
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This is a tough one. Was the separation your idea or hers? I would keep my eyes and ears open for clues. Casually mention that you have noticed her new attitude, and you like her creativity. See what her response is. I would watch her cell phone use and check her Facebook page, though.
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You didn't give any background on why you separated so just going on your post.
Maybe she was bored to death with your sex life and bored with you and life in general, so she is going to spice it up. Nothing at all wrong with that. Maybe she had a sexual awakening as part of her coming of age sexually. BTW.........good girls can and do enjoy sex.
BTW......many a husband would be thrilled. Why are you suspicious?
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If the two of you were separated you would be a fool to think that at the very least each of you were reassessing all parts of your life pursuing personal satisfaction.
That said, she is either finally unleashing her desires with you.
Or
She discovered these new interests with someone or someones else when you were separated.
That she feels like she has to lie if the latter is indicated by your interest in knowing.
On the one hand, if the two of you had an agreement of no sexual partners during the separation, it is difficult to maintain that.
On the other hand, maybe she just went to a bookstore and read up on things.
You don't really provide enough information in your posting.
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Well, that happened to me too, but we was never separated a day, it was a hormonal thing & I was buying books left & right for a time, started renting porn & visiting sites like Your Guide for Sex Tips | SexInfo101.com
It is that separation that sure would make it darn suspicious. Along with the creativity , I personally never held a "thought" back from my husband, what I was learning, wanted to do, that openness just came with the rest of it.
If it is all about YOU or a hormonal change in her to now be this way, she should NOT have an unwillingness -or hesitation to share where this came from, that is what I would think.
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It's a common-law wife. Separation was her idea because she no longer was herself and needed to be happy again and find herself.
Lamest excuse in the book and so overused by women.
I'm well aware of the tactic of "separating" or being on a "break" that some women use to have flings without guilt. She is God-fearing, and I'm sure that would be ok with the big man because technically you aren't together.
Stuff like this makes me believe none of us ever really know the truth in our relationships. You only know what the other wants you to know and believe.
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Stuff like this makes me believe none of us ever really know the truth in our relationships. You only know what the other wants you to know and believe.
True. No one can ever truly know what is in the heart or mind of another.
However, have you ever brought this up and discussed it with her? Because, typically, if there's trust and respect in a relationship, there's also a lot more transparency.
How big of a deal is it that you find out if there's a reason? What's your boundary on it? Are you willing to walk out over it, or are you willing to take the reins and see where it takes you two?
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True. No one can ever truly know what is in the heart or mind of another.
However, have you ever brought this up and discussed it with her? Because, typically, if there's trust and respect in a relationship, there's also a lot more transparency.
How big of a deal is it that you find out if there's a reason? What's your boundary on it? Are you willing to walk out over it, or are you willing to take the reins and see where it takes you two?
Best wishes.
Bringing it up would cause a slew of problems I'm sure. My gut tells me there were other men during that time even though she denied it adamantly when we got back together. She came back to me after she came to the realization she loved me and didn't want to be without me anymore. In the end reconciliation is something we both wanted, but I can't help but think part of that realization came after some sleezebags used her and she realized how the world isn't full of white knights like she may have thought.
Eh, all of this is pointless in the end. I will never get the truth. I'm resigned to that. But I'm not a stoopid man....wait, maybe I am.
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Bringing it up would cause a slew of problems I'm sure. My gut tells me there were other men during that time even though she denied it adamantly when we got back together. She came back to me after she came to the realization she loved me and didn't want to be without me anymore. In the end reconciliation is something we both wanted, but I can't help but think part of that realization came after some sleezebags used her and she realized how the world isn't full of white knights like she may have thought.
Eh, all of this is pointless in the end. I will never get the truth. I'm resigned to that. But I'm not a stoopid man....wait, maybe I am.
IMHO....
Your answer will be your attitude through the whole process. If you think that men are sleezebags, then count yourself in. If you think women are lieing hores, then end it and you've made a self-fullfilling prophecy. No matter how the effect of a new sex life, be it books, magazines, porn flicks, or your suspicion of another man... do you feel you have dominance over her newly awakened 'sexual being'? Would you be offended if she had a vibrator in her bedside drawer? She came back, reconciled with you, and have a spicier sexlife. If you think that she came back, deluded by your white knight theory, or she's just resigned to 'settle' for you... those are issues you've got to both work out... your guessing and second guessing, is gonna be a tough path to follow! Either work it out, let it go and move foreward, or let it eat at you for a lifetime...
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but I can't help but think part of that realization came after some sleezebags used her and she realized how the world isn't full of white knights like she may have thought.
Is this a bad thing? She wanted to find herself, maybe had some male company whilst on a break with you, and may have stepped into reality where guys can be huge jerks. Does you a favour, because if she came back, that means your not a jerk.
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Thank you guys for a dose of reality. I can often dish it (seem Shamwow's thread in the Coping with Infidelity forum) but can't serve it to myself. It doesn't bother me as much as it may seem. It would if the doubt were during a time we were together.
It's a common-law wife. Separation was her idea because she no longer was herself and needed to be happy again and find herself.
Lamest excuse in the book and so overused by women.
I'm sure it's just an excuse for many women. However, some women really do need to get away to find themselves. It's hard to concentrate on yourself when you're trying to keep the man you're with 100% happy. Women are guilty of putting themselves last far too often. it's quite possible that she's spent all these years trying to feed your sexual desires while ignoring hers. Now she's ready to be a bit selfish. That's not a bad thing. Hopefully you find that she's being truthful. Posted via Mobile Device
Sexually conservative wife/GF starts introducing new positions during sex. 
Hopefully you find that she's being truthful.
