09-02-2011, 02:49 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Re: Love Bank vs. Nice Guy
I think they complement each other and it's too easy to get hung up on labels.
If you had every alpha trait in the book, but lacked little empathy or concern for what your spouse needs out of the relationship, what would that get you? Not a very happy marriage, likely.
If you met every emotional need of your spouse but they lacked respect for you, what would that get you? Not a very happy marriage, likely.
It takes BOTH people being willing to meet each OTHER'S NEEDS to make a marriage truly WORK. And both of those people need to have a healthy level of respect - for themself, for their partner, and for the marriage, imho.
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