do any of you think some women want their husbands to cheat as long as they can do it discretely? as long as it yields some positive result, like less arguing, better sex life, etc etc?
I think some women drive men to cheating, but I dont know about this maybe. I have never heard of this in my years in the relationship game, maybe in a really open couple like a swinger couple.
do any of you think some women want their husbands to cheat as long as they can do it discretely? as long as it yields some positive result, like less arguing, better sex life, etc etc?
My wife told me straight up she was ok with me purchasing porn as long as I kept it hidden from her. She went on to say that if she found it she would be super pissed.
I wouldnt be surprised if some women tried the same stunt with cheating. Although I would never take her up on that. Too much chance she said it as a push-over and it will come back to bite your balls off in the future.
NOone "forces" ANYone to cheat. The one cheating - be it the husband or the wife - CHOOSES to cheat. The loyal spouse may certainly contribute to the state of the relationship that leads the cheater to that choice, but it's still a choice. The loyal spouse may turn a blind eye or be willing to accept that his/her spouse is cheating, but it's still a choice.
If the loyal spouse allows it or just plain doesn't care, that's not cheating...that's an "open" marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
As someone who cheated on their spouse, I'd agree with Grayson's post. No matter how bad the marriage is (sexless, checked out, even abusive), a spouse has the option to leave the marriage rather than cheat.
Having said that, I think that in many (definitely not all or even most) a spouse can create an environment where a spouse doesn't feel like they have any other good choices. Like they have to stay together for the kids, for financial reasons, family pressures, etc. And in those cases, having an affair can seem like the best way to hold the relationship together and still have their needs met. I would think, though, that most cheating spouses could look back and wish they'd never made that decision. Even if they didn't get caught.
NOone "forces" ANYone to cheat. The one cheating - be it the husband or the wife - CHOOSES to cheat. The loyal spouse may certainly contribute to the state of the relationship that leads the cheater to that choice, but it's still a choice. The loyal spouse may turn a blind eye or be willing to accept that his/her spouse is cheating, but it's still a choice.
If the loyal spouse allows it or just plain doesn't care, that's not cheating...that's an "open" marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
We all make choices in these matters, no matter what the circumstances are.
NOone "forces" ANYone to cheat. The one cheating - be it the husband or the wife - CHOOSES to cheat. The loyal spouse may certainly contribute to the state of the relationship that leads the cheater to that choice, but it's still a choice. The loyal spouse may turn a blind eye or be willing to accept that his/her spouse is cheating, but it's still a choice.
If the loyal spouse allows it or just plain doesn't care, that's not cheating...that's an "open" marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
Nice post. They always say that each spouse is responsible for 50% of the marriage, but that a cheater is responsible for 100% of cheating - indicating that it is a cheater's CHOICE to cheat. Even if your marriage is in a horrible state, you can still do the honourable thing and let your spouse go instead of resorting to cheating. imho
NOone "forces" ANYone to cheat. The one cheating - be it the husband or the wife - CHOOSES to cheat. The loyal spouse may certainly contribute to the state of the relationship that leads the cheater to that choice, but it's still a choice. The loyal spouse may turn a blind eye or be willing to accept that his/her spouse is cheating, but it's still a choice.
If the loyal spouse allows it or just plain doesn't care, that's not cheating...that's an "open" marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
A person may feel cornered into a bad decision, but it is their decision alone.
"forced" releases all responsibility for one's actions.
Having said that, I think that in many (definitely not all or even most) a spouse can create an environment where a spouse doesn't feel like they have any other good choices. Like they have to stay together for the kids, for financial reasons, family pressures, etc. And in those cases, having an affair can seem like the best way to hold the relationship together and still have their needs met. I would think, though, that most cheating spouses could look back and wish they'd never made that decision. Even if they didn't get caught.
I'm in a situation like this. We are living together for the kids. She's in love with someone else, he's not real but... There's no sex or intimacy between us whatsoever. She is actively encouraging me to sleep with other women. She told me yesterday to meet with an old friend who contacted me on facebook and is in the middle of a divorce and to "f the s out of her". I'm conflicted. I want to remain faithful to my wife who loves a man that is not real and has a mental disorder but at the same time I want certain needs met and she is pushing me incredibly hard to do it.
I'm in a situation like this. We are living together for the kids. She's in love with someone else, he's not real but... There's no sex or intimacy between us whatsoever. She is actively encouraging me to sleep with other women. She told me yesterday to meet with an old friend who contacted me on facebook and is in the middle of a divorce and to "f the s out of her". I'm conflicted. I want to remain faithful to my wife who loves a man that is not real and has a mental disorder but at the same time I want certain needs met and she is pushing me incredibly hard to do it.
My wife told me straight up she was ok with me purchasing porn as long as I kept it hidden from her. She went on to say that if she found it she would be super pissed.
I wouldnt be surprised if some women tried the same stunt with cheating. Although I would never take her up on that. Too much chance she said it as a push-over and it will come back to bite your balls off in the future.
do any of you think some women want their husbands to cheat as long as they can do it discretely? as long as it yields some positive result, like less arguing, better sex life, etc etc?
No. I don't. Most women would not want their husbands to cheat. Just as most men don't want their wives cheating.
Nobody "forces" anyone to do anything. That is absurd.
You live in a different state and have stated in a different post that your marriage is crap and you want out.
Are you looking for validation to cheat rather than leave your marriage?
do you think some women force a man to cheat 
