Need some advice everyone.
Im 38, Started online dating about 3 months ago.
The women (35) I am currently seeing is what Im looking for feedback on.
We started talking back in Feb. Due to scheduling conflicts and my general lack in interest, we kept missing meet ups. Initially I wasn't interested in her because I was kinda seeing someone else and I wasn't that attracted to her pics. She was a cool girl and we had some good convos which is why the texting continued. It wss very sparatic though, maybe a text every few days, short convo then nothing. Its prob what kept her interested in the beginning, my lack of availability.
Anyway we finally got on the same page to meet up on 3/29. I went in with low expectations and boy was I surprised. Natural beauty, fun, witty, successful and exactly what I am looking for. Why is she single was the first thought...
First date goes as well as it can. During the night she asks when we are going to see each other again, I suggest memorial day (playing on how long it took us to meet initially) she laughs and suggest the weekend. I had plans Saturday so we agreed to meet Friday after she had dinner with her gf. End of the night I walk her to her car, she asks for a kiss and gets it. Sparks flying everywhere.
Second date we meet up and decide to go for a walk around the park, great convo (no hand holding, or arm holding will get to this later). We sit on a bench for a bit, kiss some more. I drive her home, kiss goodnight and night ends..2 for 2 so far. I text her when I get home saying i had a great night, she says the same. I decide to ask her to dinner Sunday, she says that would be great, third date planned.
Third date we meet in the city, she looks great! Clearly dressing to impress (as am I). Kiss hello, have dinner, great convo. Decide to walk around the city (again no hand holding). We spend a few hours walking around, grab desert. Kiss on the corner passionately ( I stop in the middle to look in her eyes, my signature move lol, and notice her smiling ear to ear). I drive her home and we make plans to see each other this past Friday. She lives and dies by her calendar and appears to be a very busy girl.
Now during the week I start to pick up the texting frequency more to try and build rapport, she clearly isnt on the same page with this so I dial it back by mid week. We get to Friday.
Forth date I pick her up, kiss hello and off to the city. Park the car and head over to the restaurant (we have dinner and show ticket plans). As we are walking to the restaurant she grabs my arm. Progress! (important to me that this happened). We get to the restaurant he she says we need to get a picture together because none of her friends believe i exist. Also during dinner she is joking how she had to try on 5 different outiftis, get opinions from her friends, she doesn't wear makeup that often but had to tonight. That WHEN i meet her parents they are a little wacky. She cant wait to see my house and for me to come to hers. All good signs IMO. I told her I also had a hard time picking out my outfit and had to send them to my sis and mom for feedback.
She then asks me if I am emotionally scared from my previous marriage, will I not want to get married again. I of course diffuse this and explain how I waited a while to get into dating so I wouldn't make someone pay for my x's past digressions. I would abosultey get married again if I found the right person.
She then asks am I the type of guy who falls in love fast. To this I say not at all but when I find someone I like, I do enjoy spending time with them
Sht test passed IMO!
Out of all of this I gather she wants to take things slow. She is prob guarded from her past relationship (which was 6 months ago) she dated him on and off for 2.5 years. If I had to guess, she thought he was the guy shes going to marry and it didn't work out. Also, she may be very well the person who falls in love fast and is scared and is now trying to slow it down.
Dinner is over and we are off to the show. Show went well however she was checking her phone during it which kinda annoyed me. She is on her phone a lot and this is the one thing so far that gets to me. Not sure when I should bring this up but I will at some point.
Anyway show ends, we are both pretty tired so we head back to her house. During the drive I had suggested her to come over for dinner Sunday night. She said she had plans but would 100% take a rain check. We had made plans for next Saturday (I had got ticks to a ball game and asked her during the week if she was free to go). She said that the next time she can see me is then but after the game we can go back to her place and hang out.
We get back to her place, kiss goodnight in the car and part our separate ways. She asks me to text her when I get in so I do. To which she does not respond.
I do hear from her again but not until last night, small talk mainly.
Ok this is my question(s).
1- How do I continue conversation during this upcoming week (this is what I struggle with mostly, over-eagerness). WITHOUT LOOKING TO NEEDY
2- Opinions on her mindset and am I reading this correctly.
Thanks in advance for your help!
Im 38, Started online dating about 3 months ago.
The women (35) I am currently seeing is what Im looking for feedback on.
We started talking back in Feb. Due to scheduling conflicts and my general lack in interest, we kept missing meet ups. Initially I wasn't interested in her because I was kinda seeing someone else and I wasn't that attracted to her pics. She was a cool girl and we had some good convos which is why the texting continued. It wss very sparatic though, maybe a text every few days, short convo then nothing. Its prob what kept her interested in the beginning, my lack of availability.
Anyway we finally got on the same page to meet up on 3/29. I went in with low expectations and boy was I surprised. Natural beauty, fun, witty, successful and exactly what I am looking for. Why is she single was the first thought...
First date goes as well as it can. During the night she asks when we are going to see each other again, I suggest memorial day (playing on how long it took us to meet initially) she laughs and suggest the weekend. I had plans Saturday so we agreed to meet Friday after she had dinner with her gf. End of the night I walk her to her car, she asks for a kiss and gets it. Sparks flying everywhere.
Second date we meet up and decide to go for a walk around the park, great convo (no hand holding, or arm holding will get to this later). We sit on a bench for a bit, kiss some more. I drive her home, kiss goodnight and night ends..2 for 2 so far. I text her when I get home saying i had a great night, she says the same. I decide to ask her to dinner Sunday, she says that would be great, third date planned.
Third date we meet in the city, she looks great! Clearly dressing to impress (as am I). Kiss hello, have dinner, great convo. Decide to walk around the city (again no hand holding). We spend a few hours walking around, grab desert. Kiss on the corner passionately ( I stop in the middle to look in her eyes, my signature move lol, and notice her smiling ear to ear). I drive her home and we make plans to see each other this past Friday. She lives and dies by her calendar and appears to be a very busy girl.
Now during the week I start to pick up the texting frequency more to try and build rapport, she clearly isnt on the same page with this so I dial it back by mid week. We get to Friday.
Forth date I pick her up, kiss hello and off to the city. Park the car and head over to the restaurant (we have dinner and show ticket plans). As we are walking to the restaurant she grabs my arm. Progress! (important to me that this happened). We get to the restaurant he she says we need to get a picture together because none of her friends believe i exist. Also during dinner she is joking how she had to try on 5 different outiftis, get opinions from her friends, she doesn't wear makeup that often but had to tonight. That WHEN i meet her parents they are a little wacky. She cant wait to see my house and for me to come to hers. All good signs IMO. I told her I also had a hard time picking out my outfit and had to send them to my sis and mom for feedback.
She then asks me if I am emotionally scared from my previous marriage, will I not want to get married again. I of course diffuse this and explain how I waited a while to get into dating so I wouldn't make someone pay for my x's past digressions. I would abosultey get married again if I found the right person.
She then asks am I the type of guy who falls in love fast. To this I say not at all but when I find someone I like, I do enjoy spending time with them
Sht test passed IMO!
Out of all of this I gather she wants to take things slow. She is prob guarded from her past relationship (which was 6 months ago) she dated him on and off for 2.5 years. If I had to guess, she thought he was the guy shes going to marry and it didn't work out. Also, she may be very well the person who falls in love fast and is scared and is now trying to slow it down.
Dinner is over and we are off to the show. Show went well however she was checking her phone during it which kinda annoyed me. She is on her phone a lot and this is the one thing so far that gets to me. Not sure when I should bring this up but I will at some point.
Anyway show ends, we are both pretty tired so we head back to her house. During the drive I had suggested her to come over for dinner Sunday night. She said she had plans but would 100% take a rain check. We had made plans for next Saturday (I had got ticks to a ball game and asked her during the week if she was free to go). She said that the next time she can see me is then but after the game we can go back to her place and hang out.
We get back to her place, kiss goodnight in the car and part our separate ways. She asks me to text her when I get in so I do. To which she does not respond.
I do hear from her again but not until last night, small talk mainly.
Ok this is my question(s).
1- How do I continue conversation during this upcoming week (this is what I struggle with mostly, over-eagerness). WITHOUT LOOKING TO NEEDY
2- Opinions on her mindset and am I reading this correctly.
Thanks in advance for your help!