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Height difference in sex

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#1 ·
WARNING: Potentially graphic discussion

(Females welcome to read and reply, but male opinions prefered)

I'm currently dating someone who isn't usually my physical type, she's short and petite, I'm used to sexual positions with partners of a similar height, enjoying a variety of positions that wouldn't otherwise be possible. It's not a dealbreaker, or more like, I don't want it to be a dealbreaker because her personality is really shining out, and I want to make an exception.

However I am constantly struggling in my head in regards with the height difference. She's shorter than me, my minimum height is 5'7, and ideal height is 5'8-5'10 ft, my current date is 5'3. We are not intimate yet, early stages but promising, and hence this worry.

There are certain positions of mine which I favor, I enjoy the intimacy of kissing during penetration, standing positions, as well as mutual oral which is made more difficult the greater the height difference. Do I have to give all this up? Or are there ways around this?

I don't usually go for women this short hence I am inexperienced with this, help!
 
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#3 ·
You will adapt fine and have a blast. Not really what you wanted to hear, but don't sweat this. You do not need to choreograph the moves ahead of time.

DON'T WORRY!

Just don't tell her she is shorter than your usual sex partners, or anything remotely similar. You may be taller than the guys she is normally with. Heck, you might be shorter than the guys she is normally with.

When you get in the moment with her, your ideal height will be 5'3.
 
#4 ·
But how about the positions I'm used to? Yeah I can put pillows to raise her hips a bit higher but what else?

I want to know if it's going to be an issue, otherwise I'm wasting her time and mine. And I don't want to potentially end up hurting her.
 
#9 ·
I didn't mean hurt her physically - but emotionally - as in, I don't want to continue dating her if this just isn't going to work.

The positions I'm worried about are: "intimacy of kissing during penetration, standing positions, as well as mutual oral which is made more difficult the greater the height difference."
I know a lot of other positions are fine, and there are no problems, but it's those positions I'm worried about.
 
#10 ·
I didn't mean hurt her physically - but emotionally - as in, I don't want to continue dating her if this just isn't going to work.

The positions I'm worried about are: "intimacy of kissing during penetration, standing positions, as well as mutual oral which is made more difficult the greater the height difference."
I have had no issues with intimacy of kissing during penetration or standing positions. What do you think, you will end up making out with her forehead during penetration lol.

Also, what is to say she will even find interest in some of the positions you want to do, isn't it about finding out what works best for both parties involved?
 
#13 ·
Well, for example, kissing while penetrating is difficult for me, I have to pull out first, hence I pull out, kiss, change positions, etc, while with a woman of similar height - still inside her while I kiss her. Also, standing positions I guess there's alot of workarounds but how about mutual oral aka 69? Like... I enjoy it and if she enjoys it too yay - except errr, we can't do it!!!

=/
 
#14 ·
I don't really know if I can explain. I have had zero issues kissing my wife while in her. It is not like while having sex you lay there with perfect posture, and especially if she is on her back odds are you are bent over somewhat. Likewise when my W is on top, zero issues kissing. Sounds like something that would be fun to work on with your lady friend ;)

Not really a fan of 69 so can't give any guidance there, unless you are referring to 1969 which is the year of the Amazin Mets :D
 
#21 ·
No, in detail, like, how do you kiss her and not her forehead, how do you manage to pull her to your mouth while you are in her mouth as well?

Most of my experience has been with women of a similar height, but I have had some experiences with women who were more petite, and I struggled. So I must be doing something wrong, so I'm asking for advice.
 
#22 ·
I never gave it much thought!
I bend my neck & arch my back a bit I suppose, and we lock lips, not a peck on the forehead or something.

I know when getting a mouth-lock on some boobage, I twist & arch my back both. Sort of a radial attack more or less. No long thrusting anymore, but more short and deep like I'm trying to poke her tonsils. :laugh:

:grin2:
 
#29 ·
Argh... well, I sure hope our first encounter won't be awkward like with the previous shorter girls I've been with in the past... =/

I'll take your word for it that it just takes practice.

Maybe this is a good thing, as I'll be doing positions that I'm not used to doing - so I won't be thinking of my exs while with this new one right?
 
#39 ·
Good evening
My wife and I are different heights and we manage very well. Its true though that some things work better than others. She doesn't do oral so we haven't tried to solve the 69 problem. Her on top or missionary we can kiss with no problem - i can also reach to kiss her ears either missionary or from behind.

Practice practice practice...
 
#41 ·
Pillows, Props, Step-Stools, Split-Level Beds, Suggestions from a great sex guide ~ Hell, just use your imagination!

That's half the fun of it!

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#42 ·
@EllisRedding and @Lurkster......you two have me cracking up over here. :rofl::rofl:

Randomdude my husband is 6' tall and I'm 5'4. We have never had a problem with any of the positions you identified except maybe standing......but that was easily fixed with stripper shoes (added 5 inches) Problem solved.0:)

Seriously, take yoga classes to improve your flexibility. You'll be fine.
 
#49 ·
I'll be damned if I'm going to take yoga classes in order to avoid pulling some unheard-of muscle ~ all while trying to have my partner "pull my primary muscle" in some ultra-imaginative way!
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#43 ·
He he......

Only way we could do standing, was with her standing on a milk box! :laugh:

When we were young, we did a standing position, but was the one standing, and I would hold her up with her legs around my waist, and hoist her up and down on my you know what.

Not so acrobatic anymore.

:smile2:
 
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