My W saw an MD specializing in HRT today. She has estrogen, progesterone and was ADAMANT the Doc give her some testosterone.
Doc also told her the increased cancer risk is 1/1,200. Honestly that is not causing me any anxiety. Situation reversed I would gladly risk a 1/1,200 bad event to get rid of all the symptoms she has.
Funny thing was the Doc told her "you don't need testosterone. The other stuff will take care of dryness, memory problems etc.". My W apparently told her "I NEED to have a sex drive - give me the damn testosterone". LMAO.
The main themes here are communication and commitment. We have both acknowledged, talked about and worked around our somewhat challenged sex life. She doesn't like meds. Never has. We both "hoped" this would auto-correct. It didn't and now we are trying an experiment.
And hey - however well intentioned - please don't jack my thread.
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My W saw an MD specializing in HRT today. She has estrogen, progesterone and was ADAMANT the Doc give her some testosterone.
Doc also told her the increased cancer risk is 1/1,200. Honestly that is not causing me any anxiety. Situation reversed I would gladly risk a 1/1,200 bad event to get rid of all the symptoms she has.
Funny thing was the Doc told her "you don't need testosterone. The other stuff will take care of dryness, memory problems etc.". My W apparently told her "I NEED to have a sex drive - give me the damn testosterone". LMAO.
My W saw an MD specializing in HRT today. She has estrogen, progesterone and was ADAMANT the Doc give her some testosterone.
Doc also told her the increased cancer risk is 1/1,200. Honestly that is not causing me any anxiety. Situation reversed I would gladly risk a 1/1,200 bad event to get rid of all the symptoms she has.
Funny thing was the Doc told her "you don't need testosterone. The other stuff will take care of dryness, memory problems etc.". My W apparently told her "I NEED to have a sex drive - give me the damn testosterone". LMAO.
What an angel.
What's interesting / telling is that the idea of your wife needing a sex drive obviously didn't cross the doctor's mind until she told him, and even then, he couldn't see the need. Good for her for persisting. I suspect a lot of people would have just gone along with the doctor.
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What's interesting / telling is that the idea of your wife needing a sex drive obviously didn't cross the doctor's mind until she told him, and even then, he couldn't see the need. Good for her for persisting. I suspect a lot of people would have just gone along with the doctor.
Very true. I suspect Doctors are good with the medical side of things only these days without considering the entire story.
I hope that she can start to feel better soon. You really do have to be your own advocate when it comes to medicine, and sometimes insist that your concerns are listened to and treated.
We have run in to the same kind of thing with my H, who has been having some problems off and on over this last year - progressively worse over the last six months - mainly an excessive amount of fatigue and 'fuzzy headedness'.
Finally convinced him to go get a complete check-up and he had this list of questions to take with him. I added a couple of things to ask about being checked - like his thyroid since mine is in the tank and his symptoms could have been that. Then I added to get checked for low T too.
When he talked with his doc about checking his T levels, the doc said - but you say you have no problem with erections and you have an active sex life (well, yah, but it was getting more difficult for him). My H insisted that they test him anyway. They called him back in to do a re-test with a full panel. His T levels were well below the bottom of the normal range (my jaw dropped to say the least and I'm glad they confirmed with a re-test).
He'll be starting testosterone shots soon. I'm so glad my H stood his ground. They weren't even going to test him because he didn't fall into the 'expected' range of symptoms and it all could have just been taken as 'aging'. How many poor blokes go to the doctor with these kinds of things and get 'band-aids' like Viagra or anti-depressants shoved on them instead? Probably the same amount as women, like your wife, who get brushed aside unless they absolutely insist.
I'm so glad your wife advocated for herself. You gotta be selfish and keep your own best interests at heart when it comes to your health care so you can get your concerns heard and addressed.
E,
Let me know how it goes with your H. I can personally attest to noticing a boost in T levels when I lift weights.
As for my W I hope this stuff helps. She has been having pain "down there" on and off for a year+.
and her pain occurs even when we abstain for a while.
=Enchantment;456867]I hope that she can start to feel better soon. You really do have to be your own advocate when it comes to medicine, and sometimes insist that your concerns are listened to and treated.
We have run in to the same kind of thing with my H, who has been having some problems off and on over this last year - progressively worse over the last six months - mainly an excessive amount of fatigue and 'fuzzy headedness'.
Finally convinced him to go get a complete check-up and he had this list of questions to take with him. I added a couple of things to ask about being checked - like his thyroid since mine is in the tank and his symptoms could have been that. Then I added to get checked for low T too.
When he talked with his doc about checking his T levels, the doc said - but you say you have no problem with erections and you have an active sex life (well, yah, but it was getting more difficult for him). My H insisted that they test him anyway. They called him back in to do a re-test with a full panel. His T levels were well below the bottom of the normal range (my jaw dropped to say the least and I'm glad they confirmed with a re-test).
He'll be starting testosterone shots soon. I'm so glad my H stood his ground. They weren't even going to test him because he didn't fall into the 'expected' range of symptoms and it all could have just been taken as 'aging'. How many poor blokes go to the doctor with these kinds of things and get 'band-aids' like Viagra or anti-depressants shoved on them instead? Probably the same amount as women, like your wife, who get brushed aside unless they absolutely insist.
I'm so glad your wife advocated for herself. You gotta be selfish and keep your own best interests at heart when it comes to your health care so you can get your concerns heard and addressed.
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E,
Let me know how it goes with your H. I can personally attest to noticing a boost in T levels when I lift weights.
As for my W I hope this stuff helps. She has been having pain "down there" on and off for a year+.
and her pain occurs even when we abstain for a while.
Yah. He does lift - has since high school. Maybe that's what has helped keep him going. Other than this severe fatigue that he said made him feel like he was 79 instead of 49 and a bit slower "ramp up" times, he's been able to keep up his daily routine. But, he is as stubborn as a mule too, that's for sure. Can't imagine doing what he has been able to keep up doing. I think he was a bit blown away by his diagnosis - I hope I'm not going to be blown away by his treatment, you know?
Has your wife been diagnosed with anything like vulvodynia? And is she affected in her daily life - working, exercising - as well?
I do so hope she can get some relief. Haven't hit the big Menopause yet, but there are things about it that definitely scare me, and having pain like your wife's is one of them. So, I'll have some faith and be waiting for your third update - "The Good Wife - Part 3" - talking about a re-invigorated wife and life.
Thank-you for showing us a couple that loves each other so much - and are each willing to give to each other. It's inspiring.
Oooo - I am almost 47 and have been doing a lot of reading about HRT lately. Before your wife starts taking anything, get her the book "What your Dr. May Not Tell you about Menopause" by John Lee. His observations are eye opening to say the least.
SB,
The doctor is a female. And that doctor does HRT for a living so she deals with a large number of women in their mid forties to mid fifties. So the testosterone issue must come up fairly often. Not sure why the Doc was so indiferrent to prescribing the T.
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What's interesting / telling is that the idea of your wife needing a sex drive obviously didn't cross the doctor's mind until she told him, and even then, he couldn't see the need. Good for her for persisting. I suspect a lot of people would have just gone along with the doctor.
E,
Diagnosed with vulvodynia a couple years ago. Often has intermittent pain outside. Sometimes inside. DEFINITELY exacerbated by intercourse which I now realize and which for the foreseeable future is off the table (my call).
For a while she told me it was "better" - (sad I didn't clue in faster) which it turns out meant it didn't "always" hurt, and usually didn't hurt a LOT. I asked. Really I did. I thought she was responding evasively a while back, so I went and got a bible. Made her swear on the bible - got the truth. But then - (feeling sick to my stomach writing this) weeks later she said she felt better. She is normally super honest with me. When this all came about a few weeks ago she said: "you are a man - I need to take care of you". I looked at her and responded softly "I am not an animal. Don't treat me like one. Now I just feel sick knowing what has been happening." I guess she just felt like this was her responsibility - which it is NOT.
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Yah. He does lift - has since high school. Maybe that's what has helped keep him going. Other than this severe fatigue that he said made him feel like he was 79 instead of 49 and a bit slower "ramp up" times, he's been able to keep up his daily routine. But, he is as stubborn as a mule too, that's for sure. Can't imagine doing what he has been able to keep up doing. I think he was a bit blown away by his diagnosis - I hope I'm not going to be blown away by his treatment, you know?
Has your wife been diagnosed with anything like vulvodynia? And is she affected in her daily life - working, exercising - as well?
I do so hope she can get some relief. Haven't hit the big Menopause yet, but there are things about it that definitely scare me, and having pain like your wife's is one of them. So, I'll have some faith and be waiting for your third update - "The Good Wife - Part 3" - talking about a re-invigorated wife and life.
Thank-you for showing us a couple that loves each other so much - and are each willing to give to each other. It's inspiring.
E,
Diagnosed with vulvodynia a couple years ago. Often has intermittent pain outside. Sometimes inside. DEFINITELY exacerbated by intercourse which I now realize and which for the foreseeable future is off the table (my call).
For a while she told me it was "better" - (sad I didn't clue in faster) which it turns out meant it didn't "always" hurt, and usually didn't hurt a LOT. I asked. Really I did. I thought she was responding evasively a while back, so I went and got a bible. Made her swear on the bible - got the truth. But then - (feeling sick to my stomach writing this) weeks later she said she felt better. She is normally super honest with me. When this all came about a few weeks ago she said: "you are a man - I need to take care of you". I looked at her and responded softly "I am not an animal. Don't treat me like one. Now I just feel sick knowing what has been happening." I guess she just felt like this was her responsibility - which it is NOT.
Man that sucks. While Sex is big on our list. We don't want to hurt the one we would die for to get it. I feel the pain in your post.
The Good Wife - Part 2 
is off the table (my call). 
