RandomDude

Ok... we just had a fight...

I did as she asked, printed out my two threads, she was pissed.

Kept asking me WTF was wrong with me. I went at her going "What do you mean WTF is wrong with me?! You told me I'm insensitive and so I wanted to fix it"
Then she accused me of thinking too much again, and sabotaging our marriage over one little thing she said and I was like "WTF?!" Then she accused me of acting last night and that it wasn't real, and I told her I NEVER lie about how I felt about her and she should know what I did came from the heart. Then she was sarcastic and told "Oh it's SOOO from the heart alright... you've been planning this like your little game", and I went off at her doubting what I did last night and asked her WTH is going on because last night was ANYTHING BUT A GAME.

Then she ridiculed me at my thread on the ladies lounge, bringing up all the times I wasn't so tough, including a hurtful comment that I poured my heart out for her to come back after she dumped me on our 2nd break up (We broke up on and off when we were dating, me first, then her, then me, then her, etc - it was routine). I responded harshly, told her I'm proud of who I become despite where I came from, and asked her very simple, "Are you going to f--king disrespect who I am just because I've tried to be more human and f--king compassionate towards you?!". She shut her mouth... F--king b--ch.

But it didn't stop she went on about me disrespecting her, about how I took one comment of hers and took it out of context, and that I look at her as some sort of weak-willed little girl. I couldn't say anything back... what could I say?!?! She then told me that I hurt her so much more then anything I've said to her so far. FFS she's TOO PROUD.

WTF IS THIS?!
So I become an a$$hole she thinks I'm insensitive, then I try to be f--king nice and this sh-t happens?! Told her that, and ended it by telling her "You know what?! Get f--king lost!" and slammed the door.
THIS IS F--KING RIDICOLOUS!

I'm the one on a f--king pink marriage forum trying to make life better for her and dealing with all my flaws so I can be a better husband and she throws this sh-t at me?! Hell I'm so p-ssed off right now...

that_girl

She doesn't know if she can trust it, maybe.

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Triumph

sorry. The pink marriage forum comment cracked me up.

Im not very familiar with your back story, but it sounds like she enjoys living in her own little world. While I take this as a rant that requries no "help", as it were, I have a suggestion for you.

Live your own life. That was the one step in my manning-up that made my wife pull a 180. If she wants to believe that you are filled to the brim with hidden agenda's, let her. Dont set her straight. You are only half a message, the sender. She is the other half, and while you need to be clear and concise in your wording, she is responsible for properly understanding you, and if she doesnt. tough, youve already proven yourself by posting on this pink forum.

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RandomDude

Yeah, f--k it.

I'm the one who's here, she's not, I'm the one who's trying to make things better, and she accuses me of sabotage. F--K IT!!! Not even going to deal with her today, she REALLY crossed the line. I may have charged a few trenches but she decided to do a DOG MOVE and bomb me with artillery.

Hell right now I hate her guts so much... not even going to bother making up or even allow her to make up. I'm done with her for today. F--K HER!

Powerbane

Never argue. State your feelings and move on.
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RandomDude

Aye, I've opened my heart for her, and if she whines about me hardening my heart PFFFT! You reap what you sow yes?

Funny... I sacrificed my loyalty to my people FOR THIS CRAP! Should just take my kid and leave her out to rot. HELL ok... I think I should calm down before my anger gets the better of me... F--K!

RandomDude

Hell is there a way to unplug the landline of the house? That stupid p---head is calling her mum whining about me. I'm about to punch in a hole in the door.

Triumph

Yeah dude, mellow out and read this later on.





If you sacrificed your loyalty to your people for her, then you have only yourself to blame. Maybe its time to pull the plug and move on.

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It's because we do not dare that things are difficult.”
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Halien

To those of us who are color-blind, its gray, and not pink, if it helps any.

RandomDude

F--k my avatar, just removed it... so sick of this.

Hell if some random a$$ tries to start something with me I tend to just laugh but when I try to be nice to someone and they spit it out in my face... no, my temper can't take care of that.

Damn b-tch really. If she's trying to challenge me whether I can rip out everything we have accomplished in our marriage then she'll be in for a f--king surprise. NO ONE f--ks with me like this.

But yeah... I should mellow, I'm mellow enough not to break anything for now, but d--n if she dared to throw something at me again... hell I HATE HER... I F--KING HATE HER

Triumph

If she is challenging you, like you say, it sounds like she wants the marriage to be over, but doesnt have the testicular fortitude to follow through with it herself. So she will push you until you do her dirty work.

Life isnt too short. Life is the perfect amount of time. But that doesnt mean you should be in misery for any serious length of it.

Im not trying to egg you on, but you have been on this website for 11 months, and you have been trying to build yourself/ her/ the marriage for this amount of time at least. If she isnt willing to accept change, and she continues to be this b!7ch you describe, take your kid and move out. Try a seperation on for size. If it fits, great. If not, she will [i]hopefully[/] acknowledge that your a man and wont take any more crap.

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It's because we do not dare that things are difficult.”
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RandomDude

My mother in law just called me and told me to forgive her, and that she's being childish. Ok WTF?! This day is just getting weirder... she's the LAST person I would want advice from and she tells me this?! Meh I'm going for a drive

Triumph

Your wife has obviously been talking to her mother about the issue, and your Mother in law would seem to be on your side. Thats a good sign.

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It's because we do not dare that things are difficult.”
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morituri

Has your wife ever treated you with kindness and respect?

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Your wife takes the piss out of you and you don’t like it big time. It’s always the case, those that give it out can’t take it.