Dear sirs,
I asked my husband(via text) to answer this question after he arrive back home from work. Meaning, i gave him some time if he wants to think of his answer first.
The question was:
If you get satifying sex (quantity and quality), will you stop seeking porn (pic/video)? I won't cry, scream or treat you unkindly. I just want to know.
he reaplied my text saying he is tired of this. He is tired to answer. I asked why and he said he got to go do some work.
I replied he can answer it after work, after he had some rest at home. No reply at all. Not even an OK.
Does this mean he won't stop porn?
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background story : skip if you wish.
Married for almost five years. Two young children: 4 and 1 yo
I caught him on porn third time recently. First and second time i forgave and move on quickly. But we never got to an agreement/solution. He knew it is wrong (according to our religion) and it hurts me (I feel betrayed. i dont need you to explain why porn is ok).
Now for the third time, i decided i can't accept this behavior in my marriage. ive told him dont ever think i will tolerate this behavior, dont ever think i wont dare to leave this marriage.
Yesterday we argued again and it becoming real clear that he wont budge on stopping porn. He reasoned that it is just pixels, he has right to masturbate, the women have no meaning to him , he has urges and i can't be there for him all the time.
Yesterday he even seemed like not bothered if we are divorced because of this. he used the word "divorced" first, not me.
(he said if i ever told anyone again about any of our marriage issues, he'll divorced me. i made a mistake of telling his mum he watched porn recently)
The talk was started by me. I told him i feel betrayed (he cut my off here by stating the above statement) and my trust for him is broken. But im willing to give this relationship a chance. But there is a condition: read 4 articles and tell me what he gotten out of them.
He did.
So, just now today, i thought i could do my part to help him stop porn... but what can you tell me, guys, based on what you have read?
Am i blind?
I asked my husband(via text) to answer this question after he arrive back home from work. Meaning, i gave him some time if he wants to think of his answer first.
The question was:
If you get satifying sex (quantity and quality), will you stop seeking porn (pic/video)? I won't cry, scream or treat you unkindly. I just want to know.
he reaplied my text saying he is tired of this. He is tired to answer. I asked why and he said he got to go do some work.
I replied he can answer it after work, after he had some rest at home. No reply at all. Not even an OK.
Does this mean he won't stop porn?
----
background story : skip if you wish.
Married for almost five years. Two young children: 4 and 1 yo
I caught him on porn third time recently. First and second time i forgave and move on quickly. But we never got to an agreement/solution. He knew it is wrong (according to our religion) and it hurts me (I feel betrayed. i dont need you to explain why porn is ok).
Now for the third time, i decided i can't accept this behavior in my marriage. ive told him dont ever think i will tolerate this behavior, dont ever think i wont dare to leave this marriage.
Yesterday we argued again and it becoming real clear that he wont budge on stopping porn. He reasoned that it is just pixels, he has right to masturbate, the women have no meaning to him , he has urges and i can't be there for him all the time.
Yesterday he even seemed like not bothered if we are divorced because of this. he used the word "divorced" first, not me.
(he said if i ever told anyone again about any of our marriage issues, he'll divorced me. i made a mistake of telling his mum he watched porn recently)
The talk was started by me. I told him i feel betrayed (he cut my off here by stating the above statement) and my trust for him is broken. But im willing to give this relationship a chance. But there is a condition: read 4 articles and tell me what he gotten out of them.
He did.
So, just now today, i thought i could do my part to help him stop porn... but what can you tell me, guys, based on what you have read?
Am i blind?