I have always been the "Nice Guy" and just recently figured out that this is probably my biggest problem. Like many I have been frustrated with my wife's lack of interest in sex. Last December I made a commitment to be extremely nice and try to anticipate what she would want me to do prior to having to be asked. For example I touched up the paint in the bedrooms...or vacuumed the entire house before she asked "when was the last time the house was vacuumed". I have heard time and time again that women need you to do the little things without being asked...blah blah blah.
Well i have noticed she is much nicer to me, but still not all that interested in sex. I will admit it has gone from once every 4 - 6 weeks to twice every 4- 6 weeks on average.
In the last two months I have found this site and been reading a lot about how what a woman really wants is not a nice guy at all. Ah Crap! I now get it I am my own worst enemy. This is starting to make sense now.
My question is, how does a typical "manly" male respond to the following scenario...
My wife has been battling a cold for the last two days, but I thought i'd try anyway.
I thought I'd just go for it. Leaned over and kissed my wife's shoulder, and the reaction I got was. "I cannot believe how selfish you are. You know I am sick. It's moments like this that I feel like I am just a whole for you to stick it in."
In the past, I would have sulked and just profusely apologized. Last night I just looked at her and said. "Yes I want to have sex with you. Even though you are not feeling well, I still find you extremely sexy."
It pretty much ended at that. Which is better than I would have expected.
So, again, how would a manly man handle this?
Well i have noticed she is much nicer to me, but still not all that interested in sex. I will admit it has gone from once every 4 - 6 weeks to twice every 4- 6 weeks on average.
In the last two months I have found this site and been reading a lot about how what a woman really wants is not a nice guy at all. Ah Crap! I now get it I am my own worst enemy. This is starting to make sense now.
My question is, how does a typical "manly" male respond to the following scenario...
My wife has been battling a cold for the last two days, but I thought i'd try anyway.
I thought I'd just go for it. Leaned over and kissed my wife's shoulder, and the reaction I got was. "I cannot believe how selfish you are. You know I am sick. It's moments like this that I feel like I am just a whole for you to stick it in."
In the past, I would have sulked and just profusely apologized. Last night I just looked at her and said. "Yes I want to have sex with you. Even though you are not feeling well, I still find you extremely sexy."
It pretty much ended at that. Which is better than I would have expected.
So, again, how would a manly man handle this?