I TOTALLY agree with Enchantment here. Start with the thread she mentions below, then read every post on this forum from Athol, MEM11363, Conrad, BigBadWolf, AHEH and Deejo. They WILL help you tremendously.
If you are always trying to "romanticize" your wife to get her to initiate sex, you have an uphill battle in front of you. If you are turning into a sulking grump after two weeks of no sex, you are fighting an uphill battle.
Please go to Married Man Sex Life
and start reading. And for sure drop the $9.99 on Athol's Primer book. It will be the best $10 you have ever spent relating to sex in marriage.
Read above all the threads, the site, and then the book BEFORE you tell your wife to get her hormones tested.
I am 40 Y.O. Been married for 20 this year with a 19 yo, 16 yo and 10 yo. I have always had the higher drive. I used to get sulky and grumpy w/o sex. I had become too "Betanonized" by my wife and lost the edge. NOT ANYMORE since coming to this site. I have learned plenty from the men above in the Clubhouse.
Let's just finally say we have gone from 2-3 times per month to every other day and many times every day. We are getting to the point where some kind of intimate "playtime" is the default choice, it is no longer me asking her to do it.
You can get there too.
How often is always? Do you think you could be overwhelming or smothering her? The thermostat - the ultimate barometer of your R
And, just a hint, but most women are not going to 'offer themselves' up if they do not feel a strong emotional connection with their partner. What do you think SHE needs in order to feel emotionally connected to you again?