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I can only speak for myself, but usually I can't hang out with a female friend without there being an attraction to her. That means when I got married I dropped any female friend to hang out with unless my wife and others were present. My wife has had the same experience, good guy friends she thought were friends would act fine until an inevitable moment when he'd make a move on her. So we've chosen to aim at having couple friends only.
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Originally Posted by nice777guy
Meaning they romanticize it?
Not necessarily, but yes that seems to be extremely common. I think our culture promotes a concept of love that makes the self-justification of inappropriate behavior much easier for many people, and a concept of sex that makes it much easier for many people to confuse sexual desire with romantic love.
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My single fat friends get more sex than my skinny ones. Just sayin'.
And I do think men and women can be friends if it's in the right context. I have a male friend that I've never wanted to sleep with...it just never went there. We collaborate on work (art, writings, etc) and over the years became good friends.
My husband has a female friend (who is now a close friend of mine) and they never dated or wanted to have sex. They just got along well. He has another female friend that he doesn't hide from me and he doesn't want that way, they just talk about cars. She hangs out with his group of friends and has her own boyfriends (a lot of boyfriends...lol...) I don't like her much because she's flakey, but hey, not my friend.
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Female Acquaintances = Yes
Female Co-workers = Yes
Real female friends that you hang with outside of work without the spouse = No
Outside of older women I think a typical hetero guy must find something attractive about a women to want to invest the time and energy to be perceived as her friend. He may say "Oh I would never sleep with her because I value my relationship", but I would bet he has fantasized about it and would do it if his relationship was in trouble. The friendships between men and women have a different energy which I think is an underlying sexual tension. Its nice to hear another women's point of view sometimes but its probably nice because its a bit flattering that she bothered to share her thoughts.
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Last night I tried explaining my wife what is going on in a men's head. I told her how easy it is for a man to be aroused by any stupid thing - even a stupid commercial with a pretty women in it, or better yet - not even pretty!
She couldn't understand it. If wives would understand what's really in men's head, they will be more than happy to provide sex to their husband knowing how much it protects them from being betrayed.
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Last night I tried explaining my wife what is going on in a men's head. I told her how easy it is for a man to be aroused by any stupid thing - even a stupid commercial with a pretty women in it, or better yet - not even pretty!
She couldn't understand it. If wives would understand what's really in men's head, they will be more than happy to provide sex to their husband knowing how much it protects them from being betrayed.
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Now - I will NOT say that I could never see myself crossing a boundary - mine or theirs - at some point. But - it hasn't happened yet and I have no "secret plans" in place.
Would you cross a boundary if you were still married though? Or if she was?
Not judging, just a question. It's starting to scare me because it sounds like almost all the guys would if they got the green light.
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Originally Posted by I'mAllIn
I'm having an ongoing discussion with a group of friends started by an article we read in some random magazine. The article said that it's actually good for people to have opposite sexmale friends. The basic premise of the article was that harmless flirting and the ability to ask opposite sex friends advice and questions was a good thing, as long as there are clear boundaries and no secrets.
However, some of my male friends say no heterosexual man has female friends that they wouldn't sleep with if given half a chance. Do you guys feel that's true?
If you are married, that is out of order, i do not care how harmless the flirting may be. Also, always put your self in your spouses position, what if he had such female "friends"
And no, i will speak for the majority of men on earth and go ahead and confirm that a guy will bang a woman if he has the chance to and if she is half decent looking.
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Originally Posted by iDeal
If you are married, that is out of order, i do not care how harmless the flirting may be. Also, always put your self in your spouses position, what if he had such female "friends"
And no, i will speak for the majority of men on earth and go ahead and confirm that a guy will bang a woman if he has the chance to and if she is half decent looking.
Do you mean the majority will do so regardless of their relationship status?
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Do you mean the majority will do so regardless of their relationship status?
The majority? yes. depends on what kind of guy it is, some loyal genuine guys will not have girl friends, like my self. i don't see my self being friends with a female, so i don't have any, i wouldn't do anything with them because i love, respect and am loyal to my wife, but its the girls that i do not trust, and hey, why even put my self in that situation, i will not die without female friends.
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I'm having an ongoing discussion with a group of friends started by an article we read in some random magazine. The article said that it's actually good for people to have opposite sexmale friends. The basic premise of the article was that harmless flirting and the ability to ask opposite sex friends advice and questions was a good thing, as long as there are clear boundaries and no secrets.
However, some of my male friends say no heterosexual man has female friends that they wouldn't sleep with if given half a chance. Do you guys feel that's true?
I will sleep with anyone, if I am sufficiently tired and there is no threat of sex. Snoring may be a concern, on second thought.
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It goes both ways.
I wonder when guys are going to figure out that ,in many cases. a woman's sex drive dwarfs that of man's. Think those cougars are going for young stuff because of the mental stimulation vs physical endurance. Sucks to get old, as man, but what can one do(well, there is Viagra).
Boys, they do not need recovery time, are multi-orgasmic, have the capacity to do more than one person at a time should they so desire. Whose buying all those vibrators, as Marc Rudov poses?
Look at the capacity they have. Must be some purpose from an evolutionary standpoint.
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The majority? yes. depends on what kind of guy it is, some loyal genuine guys will not have girl friends, like my self. i don't see my self being friends with a female, so i don't have any, i wouldn't do anything with them because i love, respect and am loyal to my wife, but its the girls that i do not trust, and hey, why even put my self in that situation, i will not die without female friends.
Word.
Or single men hanging around married women. I don't trust them either. I am suspicious of their motives.
Maybe because if I was single, i would think hanging out with a married person without their spouse is somewhat sleezy.
I have male friends but they are more 'chat' buddies for different purposes (nonsexual lol) ...My best friend (before I met my husband) is a family therapist. He comes in handy LOL and free.
I have a TOTAL double standard that Im trying to overcome though.
I have a friend of opposite sex. I don't think it's a big deal. I know I don't mean any harm and neither does my friend (6 year friendship, he has a gf). Women who want to be friends with my husband, however, make me want to kick some ass. I just don't trust it. I trust him though, that's the funny part....but I DO NOT trust them. I'm working through some of that, but...I still think single women who hang around married men are just looking for trouble and/or a challenge.
When Harry Met Sally - they discussed men and women friendships. Harry said men always want to sleep with their female friends. She commented that men can be friends with women they find unattractive. Harry responded, 'Nah, you pretty much want to nail them too!'.
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