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Old 11-06-2011, 12:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
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My mother just recently mentioned that I may have gotten married to early in my life and that is why I am not faithful to my wife but she is the same age as me so what does this mean?
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Old 11-06-2011, 01:35 AM   #2 (permalink)
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It just means you're both young and silly, like me and my wife.
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Old 11-06-2011, 09:02 AM   #3 (permalink)
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My mother just recently mentioned that I may have gotten married to early in my life and that is why I am not faithful to my wife but she is the same age as me so what does this mean?
There are people way older than you who still cheat, so age in my book on that is just a number. However, you are probably young in the sense that you are still immature and not making the best choices right now. With marriage comes commitment, respect, responsibility, love, faithfulness and a bunch of other things. You may just not be ready for any of that yet.
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Old 11-06-2011, 09:07 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Sounds like your mom cannot see you for who you really are, because she is your mom.
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Old 11-06-2011, 09:37 AM   #5 (permalink)
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It is certainly possible (and unfortunately quite common) to get married too young. Age and maturity are in fact connected, though many people like to claim that they have one without the other.

If you are very young, married, and cheating, yes it's certainly possible that your age is playing a role in your infidelity. Whether that's because you made a commitment you weren't ready for, or because you made a stupid decision because you lack mature decision-making capabilities, or ... (fill in the blank) these things can happen at any age, but certainly being young helps.

The fact that your wife is the same age as you has nothing to do with this issue. Not all young people cheat, obviously, if you're asking why your age should matter if only the one of you cheated. Otherwise, I don't understand what her age has to do with you question.
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Old 11-06-2011, 10:22 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Age has nothing to do with cheating, character does.
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My mother just recently mentioned that I may have gotten married to early in my life and that is why I am not faithful to my wife but she is the same age as me so what does this mean?
How old were you when you got married? How old now?

Age, statistically, has an impact on infidelity. The younger you are, the more emotionally immature you probably are, and the more opportunities for infidelity you'll have. It's just one of a pile of reasons not to get married too young.
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Age has nothing to do with cheating, character does.
Age has much to do with maturity & maturity often has much to do with character.

So to some extent they can often be correlated.
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Age has much to do with maturity & maturity often has much to do with character.

So to some extent they can often be correlated.
Everybody knows right from wrong at about the age of 8 or even younger. If you are old enough to marry and old enough to produce a child, you are old enough to know cheating is wrong. It has EVERYTHING to do with character.
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How old were you when you got married? How old now?

Age, statistically, has an impact on infidelity. The younger you are, the more emotionally immature you probably are, and the more opportunities for infidelity you'll have. It's just one of a pile of reasons not to get married too young.
I was 22 when we got married and turned 23 7 months later.
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Sounds like you share too much data with your mom.
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Old 11-07-2011, 04:21 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I was 22 when we got married and turned 23 7 months later.
So - you're cheating on your wife inside the first year of marriage?

You're both too young and much, much too stupid/inconsiderate to be married.

Also tell your Mom less of your personal business.
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My mother just recently mentioned that I may have gotten married to early in my life and that is why I am not faithful to my wife but she is the same age as me so what does this mean?
It means you're a Momma's boy who makes bad choices and your Mom is using your age as your excuse because she is your Mom. Unless you're 13, it's nothing more than an excuse. Your cheating is more a reflection of your character than it is your age.
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Your name would not happen to be Norman Bates, would it?
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