I read through it (yes, all the way!) and one poster had mentioned the 180 switch, and was corrected that we are supposed to cool off not turn all the way off (as a 180 would indicate). How do you accomplish this simply cooling off with all the built up resentment inside from years of being rejected and trying to fix things only to hit a wall? I feel like turning it all the way off like he has done to me so many times.
So, do I understand this correctly if my husband avoids me and does not say goodbye or have a nice day or anything in the morning on his way out to work, I match that? So when I didnt go find him to say goodbye, I did the right thing?
Im sorry for this seemingly simple ?, but its so counterintuitive to how Im wired... warm fuzzy, kiss goodbye...
I have resisted the urge to send a nice txt saying have a nice day... ugh. Im not going to want him after all this game playing. Do other "hots/warms" out there feel turned off by this? Do any female hots have success stories with this method?
Please let me know, because this is literally our last hope for a marriage. Thanks!
After reading this thread, Im beginning to wonder if the therapist only thought he had Borderline Personality bc of his actions/intentions, but its really just as simple as this (bc it almost looks the same on paper)! That would be amazing