So let me start out with I'm in the military. My wife and I got married a year ago after being engaged for about 1.5 years. But due to her being in college and me being in the military, I live across the country from her. The last year we have had our ups and downs, but recently my wife has grown more restless with our situation. Before I explain the situation let me explain my wife.
My wife usually craves for attention. Not necessarily from the opposite sex, but in the aspect that she hates being alone. She is a real outgoing person and prefers to spend time with friends, family ,or me. But due to me being station across the country it makes our relationship hard. I on the otherhand quite like my alone time. Don't get me wrong though, I do go out with friends on occasion, but being by myself is when I can truly recover from the day to day struggle.
The problem I am having right now is that my wife can't stand it when I dont talk/text her all throughout the day. If I go without talking to her for 2 to 3 hours, she tends to lash out and that's putting it mildly. Usually if I don't talk to get throughout the day, we end up getting into an argument on how I never talk to her anymore, and lately it's been getting to the point of that I'm scared she might start thinking about divorce.
I know I'm not the most talkative person. When I talk to someone, it's because I have something to say, and when I don't, I keep to myself. It's hard for me to small talk or conjure up a conversation out of thin air when I dont have anything to talk about, and she refuses to accept that.
It seems like every time we have an argument about this, she goes to the extreme of things and makes it sound like I neglect her for days on end, but the truth of the matter is, is that every day I tell her good morning, and if I don't she gets mad. Every day I try to skype call her at night and if I happen to fall asleep, she gets angry. If I'm out in town with friends and haven't talked to her in a few hours, she get mad and starts to argue with me. It seems the only time I can get away with not talking to her is if I'm at work, and then that only helps if I am out on a field op or a shooting range. She makes it seem like I am supposed to drop everything I am doing and put my full attention on her, even if I'm at work or with friends.
I just need some advice on how to deal with this.
I have 11 1/2 months to go till I get out of the military and will be able to move in new with her, but I don't know if our relationship can last that long.
My wife usually craves for attention. Not necessarily from the opposite sex, but in the aspect that she hates being alone. She is a real outgoing person and prefers to spend time with friends, family ,or me. But due to me being station across the country it makes our relationship hard. I on the otherhand quite like my alone time. Don't get me wrong though, I do go out with friends on occasion, but being by myself is when I can truly recover from the day to day struggle.
The problem I am having right now is that my wife can't stand it when I dont talk/text her all throughout the day. If I go without talking to her for 2 to 3 hours, she tends to lash out and that's putting it mildly. Usually if I don't talk to get throughout the day, we end up getting into an argument on how I never talk to her anymore, and lately it's been getting to the point of that I'm scared she might start thinking about divorce.
I know I'm not the most talkative person. When I talk to someone, it's because I have something to say, and when I don't, I keep to myself. It's hard for me to small talk or conjure up a conversation out of thin air when I dont have anything to talk about, and she refuses to accept that.
It seems like every time we have an argument about this, she goes to the extreme of things and makes it sound like I neglect her for days on end, but the truth of the matter is, is that every day I tell her good morning, and if I don't she gets mad. Every day I try to skype call her at night and if I happen to fall asleep, she gets angry. If I'm out in town with friends and haven't talked to her in a few hours, she get mad and starts to argue with me. It seems the only time I can get away with not talking to her is if I'm at work, and then that only helps if I am out on a field op or a shooting range. She makes it seem like I am supposed to drop everything I am doing and put my full attention on her, even if I'm at work or with friends.
I just need some advice on how to deal with this.
I have 11 1/2 months to go till I get out of the military and will be able to move in new with her, but I don't know if our relationship can last that long.