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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 09-14-2016, 04:45 PM Thread Starter
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I am 67 and have been being aroused by and sexually arousing women for well over 50 years. The last thing I want is to have sex with a 20 something. I mean what would we have in common? She would barely know her body let alone how to use it to please a man. I want to have sex with my wife who is a year younger than I am.

When I watch porn at times, it is granny or mature woman or MILF based. My wife knows how to curl my toes and do me until I get leg cramps! She has hang ups and body self image problems, but God I love her and love looking at her body. I tell her that and she has a hard time believing it. Still it is true and I wouldn't trade her for three 20-something porn stars no matter how good they looked. The only advantage a 20-something would have is in making babies, but most of us are past that stage in our life.

Have a little more faith in yourself and your husband. He chose you to be his wife, honor his choice.

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So much of what I am reading is encouraging to me and I appreciate your responses. Because of things we have had to get through that have made him feel like I don't trust him. Which is far from true. I really have yo reach deep to find the courage and the right words to approach this subject. I want him to understand and not feel like I am trying to make him feel wrong or "bad" in anyway. We both are very sensitive people and tend to take things the wrong way. I to believe communication is extremely important in working through everything in relationshios. But damn sometimes it is so hard.

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When I watch porn at times, it is granny
I just threw up in my mouth a little.
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I just threw up in my mouth a little.
you should see some of those "grannies"
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I just threw up in my mouth a little.

Look, I am 67, most of the young porn stars are the age of grandchildren. I assume you are much younger, if so, then I can understand, if you are my age and it turns you off, you have some serious issues.
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So much of what I am reading is encouraging to me and I appreciate your responses. Because of things we have had to get through that have made him feel like I don't trust him. Which is far from true. I really have yo reach deep to find the courage and the right words to approach this subject. I want him to understand and not feel like I am trying to make him feel wrong or "bad" in anyway. We both are very sensitive people and tend to take things the wrong way. I to believe communication is extremely important in working through everything in relationshios. But damn sometimes it is so hard.

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Then make it clearly about you and not him.

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....He choose you to be his wife. He didn't choose a porn star. Think about that. Tell him that you love him and know how much he loves you, but that watching porn scares you and makes you feel insecure about your body. Ask him if instead of his watching porn, the two of you can do sexual things together. You say he feels you are his Goddess, well enjoy it!......
Figure out the courage you need for yourself, to have the marriage you want. Then make it happen.

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I am saying he visits his parents when I am away. He is not out prowling for women... i am curious about the reasons men married or not feel the need to look up pictures of naked women and look at porn....
I do it because it's quick and easy excitement that I can SAFELY control. I can masturbate in satisfying ways that don't always happen with a partner and have a GUILT-FREE orgasm or two. There is less hassle, risk and shame or guilt with porn. This is just the tip of the iceberg!

if you have a woman who is completely dedicated to you and loves you more than anything....i s this just to pass time when she is busy and you are bored...
I don't do it out of boredom, I do it to satisfy certain desires or "needs" that she does not or cannot but it really is an act of cowardice since I've never tried to tell my (late) wife what I want form her or us that porn is giving me. I think porn is or was giving me SAFETY and guilt-free pleasures!

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