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Old 11-17-2011, 01:47 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Question for the men... How often do you need/want sex?

I'm very curious. I really would like to know how often you guys need/want sex from your wives/SO's?

What's the minimum per week or month?
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Old 11-17-2011, 01:54 PM   #2 (permalink)
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2-3 times a week would keep me happy as long as she wants it 2-3 times a week too.

If she`s putting out 2-3 times a week just to keep me happy but couldn`t care less herself I don`t want it at all.
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Old 11-17-2011, 02:00 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Yes, I'm assuming the women want it as well.
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What Tacoma said... 2-3x/wk perfect! Mine used to say she wanted it ALL the time, like daily, however that was nowhere close to realistic it was just a fantasy in her mind. For one she was often disappointed if it wasn't our typical 2 hour session (and she wanted to have time to do other things too), plus when I did want a quickie it was either inconvenient for her or she was never really into it (tired, cramps, yeast infection whatever excuse she had), nor wanted to just accomodate my desire to (because to her it was always about her), though I rarely pursued this really hard for fear it would build resentment - little did I know NOT pursuing sex more built even more resentment :/

However, to note, I was probably the cold one in the relationship, she was the hot one and she says I turned her down too often the first year or two. 2-3x ideal, our reality weekly the first couple years then degraded to bi-weekly, then monthly etc until is was a couple times only in that last year.
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Only on days with ay in the name
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Old 11-17-2011, 04:54 PM   #6 (permalink)
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2-3 times a week would keep me happy as long as she wants it 2-3 times a week too.

If she`s putting out 2-3 times a week just to keep me happy but couldn`t care less herself I don`t want it at all.
BINGO. give that man a cigar.

but if she wanted it I'd probly want it everyday!and twice on sunday!
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Old 11-17-2011, 05:03 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Personally... everyday morning and night. (Men NEED to ejaculate 6 times per week to lessen their risk of prostate cancer... Dr Oz) That's 14...just want to make sure.

Reality... as much as I can get with my wife.
In other words a healthy balance between both of our sex drives. I do care about how she feels and want her to enjoy it also and not feel burdened.

In other words... monthly was too little over time (15 times a year avg). That was the PRIMARY cause our all of our current marriage issues.

As we are now recovering...

I'd be ecstatic with 2-3 times a month because of our work schedules.

If we were together all the time... 2-3 times weekly would be ideal and I believe workable.

Also.. QUALITY is way more important than QUANTITY.

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Zero is fine.
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Old 11-17-2011, 07:36 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Once a day to once every other day is what I want.

2-3 per week will keep me a happy man.
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Old 11-17-2011, 09:20 PM   #10 (permalink)
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<---not a man but just curious by sex are you just referring to some v action or is oral included in these figures given?
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<---not a man but just curious by sex are you just referring to some v action or is oral included in these figures given?
Men want any sex (Its our way of feeling emotionally and physically close) mostly v action...but o action and h action counts in a pinch. It's somewhat related to protecting the female from insemination from other males at the most primal level of evolution. That's also why you'll hear 2-3 times a week a lot. That means sperm is in their v always. That makes a man happy and feel the wife is satisfied and not likely to cheat at all.

I like knowing my stuff is inside my wife's V it eases my mind totally. Can't wait for tomorrow or Saturday it'll be the first time for our "new" sex life after four months exactly without!

So the range for me is 1-10 days ideally. After 10 it becomes a mental issue. After 30 a HUGE MENTAL ISSUE (because of the female cycle). Men can't turn that off normally it is a primal urge. I know many women don't buy that... whatever you aren't a man! It's truth.

I stopped drinking, smoking pot, gambling, porn but cannot shut off my sex drive! I tried.
That is why so many marriages get stressed... women don't understand that undeniable aspect of men. They have no inkling of what starving their men sexually does to their mind. There is NO SUBSTITUTE for sex with your wife if you are in a committed marriage.

They think its just sex...no biggie. Sex is huge for most husbands.
A woman can't possibly know how big a deal it is.

For two years straight... my sex life was on my waking mind 99.8% of the time (The .2% when we had sex 7 times in two years) . Even when I was doing other things half my brain was thinking about my lack of sex life. I'm surprised I still managed to thrive at work and raise my family. I strongly considered getting a divorce and leaving my two kids in a broken marriage. Also giving up my pets. That is how lack of sex affects men.

Now my mind is clear again because I strongly believe my sex life is fixed permanently. I put my wife "in charge" of getting lack of sex off my mind she asked me on a date tomorrow I'm happy again.

I'm going to go out on a limb with a scientific prediction.... most troubled/stressed marriages START down that path the moment when sex becomes less frequent than 2-3 times per week for an extended period of time.

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That is why so many marriages get stressed... women don't understand that undeniable aspect of men. They have no inkling of what starving their men sexually does to their mind. There is NO SUBSTITUTE for sex with your wife if you are in a committed marriage.

They think its just sex...no biggie. Sex is huge for most husbands.
A woman can't possibly know how big a deal it is.
This is true. I had NO IDEA how important sex actually was for a man until just a few months ago. We have been married 12 years.

Luckily for my husband, it's just as important to me too.
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<---not a man but just curious by sex are you just referring to some v action or is oral included in these figures given?
I was only thinking of the v action, but I do realize how important oral is too.
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Old 11-18-2011, 08:42 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Huh, I thought my husband was low drive because he's content with 2-3 times a week. Guess I was wrong, he's quite normal! lol

I guess I should stop comparing his sex drive now that he's in his early 40's, to what it was is his younger years.
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Old 11-18-2011, 10:38 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Sadly, now that I'm in my mid-40's, my drive is around 4-5 times per week. Any more than that, and I have to work at it.
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