no. too much. if I get divorced I would not date or seek companionship with someone who had young children. I did my time with my own and don't want to be bothered with someone responsibilities.
once my children are grown then I can start my life again.
Ten years ago, maybe. My youngest is 12, though, and I'm looking forward to the day when I have more independence... er... I mean when he does.
I wouldn't run, but it would have to be pretty special to make me willing to step into that kind of responsibility.
Pets are the same, albeit on a much smaller scale.
I love dogs, and in my past life had a couple. However, I have come to appreciate the freedom that comes from not having a pet - more than I enjoy having one around.
5 boys wouldn't scare me off. I think it would be fun as I've only raised a girl.
But.....a big factor would be setting rules about discipline. I've seen other men who entered such a relationship be told that they have no business setting boundaries concerning the step kids behavior. The kids would say, "Your not my real Dad, You can't tell me what to do!".
That caused huge agruements between the couples, one ended in divorce with the man stating his primary reason was that the kids walked all over him, disrespected him, and the woman backed the kids, not him.
Based on watching my husbands single friends dating, and on what I have overheard some single mothers(just some) say. I would give it a try bUT the second time she asked to borrow money or have you pay for something, i would run. I've seen alot of women with children purposely use men because they need financial help and not because they are looking for a relationship. Some, not all, so please dont shoot me for saying it.
I would imagine the best fit would be a divorced man who has kids of a similar age that he has partial access to since his divorce. It might serve as good therapy for him.
I know I would if I was young, divorced, and had kids I have limited access to.
This is interesting....so far between both posts....there are more no's then yes's....but most of the no's are from woman! Not what I was expecting ...but interesting none the less!
@nice777guy...it's all good....just made me laugh! And I would certainly expect that you would really have to like the woman and the kids....but personally I think good for you for not letting some boys run you off!
There are more "nos" from women because women don't want to 1. deal with an ex wife/gf and 2. want to raise their own kids IF they choose to have them. They don't want to deal with raising someone else's kids unless the mother was really NOT in the picture. Or that's just how I feel about it...maybe not all women LOL
I dated a man with a kid. Loved the kid, the man was ok, but his ex was a NIGHTMARE! No thanks.
I had a kid when I met my hubs, but her dad is chill and we had a good situation/co-parenting thing and he stayed out of our business and didn't cause drama.
I let Hubs discipline "our" daughter. She is with us fulltime now so he and I set the rules and he is raising her as his own. I was raised by a stepdad who was awesome. It was never weird for me.
This is a very good question. I know a couple guys with several kids
One guy has 8 with 6 babies mommas ( a set of twins he even told some dumb chick that only one of the twins was his and she believed him)
Other guy has 7 with 6 babies mommas
There are more "nos" from women because women don't want to 1. deal with an ex wife/gf and 2. want to raise their own kids IF they choose to have them. They don't want to deal with raising someone else's kids unless the mother was really NOT in the picture. Or that's just how I feel about it...maybe not all women LOL
I dated a man with a kid. Loved the kid, the man was ok, but his ex was a NIGHTMARE! No thanks.
I had a kid when I met my hubs, but her dad is chill and we had a good situation/co-parenting thing and he stayed out of our business and didn't cause drama.
I let Hubs discipline "our" daughter. She is with us fulltime now so he and I set the rules and he is raising her as his own. I was raised by a stepdad who was awesome. It was never weird for me.
I just didn't want an ex woman involved. lol.
We'll notice that it's usually women who are more difficult to deal with. It's women who usually don't get along. Look at all the relationships, mothers-in-law don't get along with daughters-in-law, sisters-in-law don't get along with each other.
We just talked about female hormones in the other thread, I think we can see the reason.
We'll notice that it's usually women who are more difficult to deal with. It's women who usually don't get along. Look at all the relationships, mothers-in-law don't get along with daughters-in-law, sisters-in-law don't get along with each other.
We just talked about female hormones in the other thread, I think we can see the reason.
That, and, I don't want any other woman raising my kids I don't have any issues with older daughter's dad. He dates, but he's like a cat and never has gfs. lol. He doesn't bring his women around our kid when he has her.
So, I think that's why the exes are the way they are. Can't blame them, but I dont' want to deal with them either.
Well....since this is me we are talking about....lol....there are two fathers. One of my first four. He is involved, and we get along well. One from my second husband, who is not involved any more than an occasional phone call.
I don't really want to go into my divorces anymore than to say I trust too much, too easily. My first husband was abusive, my second cheated with lots and lots of women. I would like to claim I was an overall good wife, mother, lover....so both ex's say anyways....but we all have our issues and I am no exception!
As for ex wives....I guess I can understand that. It can be extremely difficult to deal with other women in the picture in any capacity. lol
Yardman...if you are single you can pm me! lol Jk
These boys....they are fun! They keep me on my toes....that's for sure!!!
Probably not. My kids will be out of the house by the time I'm 45. I'm looking forward to the years after. If I found myself single I doubt I would date someone with kids that would be in the house past the time mine are scheduled to move on. 2 kids with 2 parents is work. Don't know how you deal with 5 by yourself. God Speed.
It wouldn't put me off dating but a lot of issues would have to be worked out before it got serious. (those issues being how I got on with them, yours and their relationship with your ex's.)
Re: Would you or not??? 
No thanks.
