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post #46 of 50 (permalink) Old 12-16-2016, 01:36 PM
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I am rapidly coming to the realization that my biggest problem is self worth. I have none of it and its really hindering my ability to build healthy relationships. Also, I generally feel down a majority of the time because of it.

I am a good looking, fit 38yr old man.

Always been able to attract very good looking women. Sucessful in my career and have a ton of friends. I really have no reason to feel this way yet I do.

Until I am able to get passed this I feel I will continue to live in this rut.

Im sure this is a common theme amongst these boards. Id like to hear comments on this subject. Tips perhaps...
Try to google: self esteem or self respect and go here:
or go here:
....any of these links to self identity or self realization can take you to many other similar teachings and realizations.
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Always second guessing myself personally. Never really feel comfortable in a relationship like I always have to give more. Its really a shi$ty way to live.
That's about Codependency - google it.

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unbe, have you looked up toxic shame?
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I want this feeling to go away. That feeling deep down in the pit of your stomach like the shoe is always about to drop...Some of you know what Im feeling.
For me this is the spiritual emptiness that comes when I have forgotten the REAL me or Beingness. The Real I am is missing here in some strange way and all I have is this surface or limited little 'me'/ego/self. The only remedy I've found for this spiritual emptiness is within a philosophy or understanding called Advaita which is spoken of by guys like this: No Person - John Wheeler
https://www.youtube.com/watch?list=P...&v=SvmLnz18DYk

.... There are 100s of folks on line and in books who can help you go beyond the unhappy limits of your personal, little self to find who/what you really are, so happy sailing...........

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Re: Self worth

Lack of self worth is a pretty common feeling. I mean, we all go through those phases in which life is just beating us so it makes sense to not feel worthy, but in your case I really don't get it! It sounds like you have a lot going for you - more than average so you "should" be happy and confident. In comparison to a lot of the ugly, fat and poor men I'd say you're doing quite well.

One of the comments says you expect too much from other people. I get that. I really do. What I suggest is to try and be more accepting of other people and don't expect anyone to live up to your moral code except yourself. It's hard, especially when you're surrounded by people constantly lowering the bar, but other people are just that... Other people.

I say that as someone who gets really riled up or down by other people. Someone's mood and overall existence (if they're a regular member in my life) can really affect me so I get how hard the compartmentalization can be.

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