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post #136 of 169 (permalink) Old 11-13-2016, 05:15 AM
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Guys, what personality traits in a woman are a turnoff to you?

It is self-centered women for me. I hate it when I take a woman out on a date and all she does is talk about herself only. I went on date a couple weeks ago and the lady only talked about her career, her and what she was doing and where she was going in life. I felt like I was conducting a job interview. Not once did she ask me about myself or where I was from, or what my likes are, or try to get to know me. Very off-putting.
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I am not a guy, but I can tell you that my ex of 16 months only ever talked about himself. He NEVER asked me about me.

The first few months we were together I worked about 100 hours a week as a physician and he never - not once - asked me how I was. Instead he yelled at me for not being there for him. I wasn't even there for ME, just trying to survive

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I thought that was in the US?

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With strict regard to my RSXW, I am also turned off by women (any gender really) who seem to have an arrogant, "know-it-all" attitude around people they are either just getting to know or are trying to unduly impress! I also abhor whiny, bit€hy, manipulative women!

I am far more impressed by what is in the heart and soul of a person as well as the content of their character, moreso than I ever would be about the amount of intelligence or the manipulative resolve that they ever possessed!

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As soon as they sit down, my husband has piped up 'Oh she's going to be high maintenance!' I've asked how he can tell and what that means to him. His interpretation of high maintenance is more along the lines of being rigid or demanding. Then we see the woman ordering her drink in a very specific 'complicated' way and he says 'I knew it.' It's not just about liking things a certain way though; it's the body language, being rigid and non-inclusive, which does often pan out in the dynamic of the first date.

He doesn't like heavy makeup, false eyelashes, botox faces but he won't comment on appearance as being high maintenance. If he comments about appearance, he will say 'She seems like a good person' and it's generally when they're easy to laugh and more natural. When he refers to high maintenance it's related to behavior.
Behavior and attitude have a lot to do with my definition of high maintenance as well. Wearing makeup and having a personal preference for things is all fine, but having an set back in this preference always being an emergency and not being able to just go with the flow on occasions is the high maintenance part in my opinion. Everything can't always be perfect or to our liking.

My 18 year old daughter, for example, takes an hour to get ready. That doesn't really bother me; I actually think it's cute and we joke about it, but if she happens to be out of a certain make-up or something, she just makes due and goes on until she can logically get more. It's not like the earth stops spinning, and I know several women that would make a big deal of that.

As for the financial side of it, I realize it takes money to have things. An example of high maintenance in that area would be a woman who is always adding to the list an being hard to satisfy. If there are 3 bedrooms, she needs four; or she needs major action because some little cosmetic mishap occurred with the car, etc.

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I wonder if your husband would consider me high maintenance... I am a cheap date.. I always order water ...BUT I am particular about how much ICE I have in my glass... sometimes I ask for a cup of ice on the side as few waitresses seem to hear the "fill the cup with ice 1st" part ... I just don't like it if my ice melts before I'm finished.. it bothers me... I want my drinks chillin'...even if it's just water..
This preference wouldn't bother me at all. The issue would come as to how big of an issue it would be if it wasn't done correctly by the waiter. Would there be a small scene? Would we spend 10 minutes trying to get that right before life could go on?

I don't know what it is about going to a restaurant, but it brings out the pickiest in some people. there are people that i avoid going to restaurants with because I know there will always be an issue and my dining with them will not be a relaxed, pleasant experience.

I went out with a woman once who didn't want a slice of lemon on the edge of her water glass. It was brought with lemon, and she had them take it back. The thing is, the waiter had already walked away before she noticed, so her restaurant world stopped turning until she could get the waiter back and bring her a glass of water without the lemon. Of course, my weird mind was wondering why she couldn't have just removed the slice of lemon herself and put it aside?

Using this as an example to expand on high maintenance in general, it would also matter to me if this type of thing carried over into all aspects of life. It's water and ice at the restaurant, is there something like this in every aspect of life?

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This preference wouldn't bother me at all. The issue would come as to how big of an issue it would be if it wasn't done correctly by the waiter. Would there be a small scene? Would we spend 10 minutes trying to get that right before life could go on?
Oh no.. I hate to bother anyone...I know how utterly minor this is... sure I'm not real happy if she blew off my request.. if my glass comes back with 3 small cubes in it....but I wouldn't say a thing until she came back & asked how we're doing.. then I might.... even then it depends ... as sometimes I just take my husbands ice!

He offers it- willingly...not necessarily at the start, but if mine all melted, they'd be mine...

This is how it goes...when our waters come.. we eye up the ice.. and I get the one with the most.. ha ha... When we get pizza.. I go for the thinnest slices.. he'll grab the thicker ones... I guess New York style is my thing, where to him.. none of these things would matter at all..

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I went out with a woman once who didn't want a slice of lemon on the edge of her water glass. It was brought with lemon, and she had them take it back. The thing is, the waiter had already walked away before she noticed, so her restaurant world stopped turning until she could get the waiter back and bring her a glass of water without the lemon. Of course, my weird mind was wondering why she couldn't have just removed the slice of lemon herself and put it aside?
I would kick myself to bother someone over something this insignificant...Yep...just take it out...I wish 1 lemon slice was flavorful.. I sure can't taste it! Heck.. I think it's a real treat if they bring some extras... I try to make a little lemonade out of that....

BUt yeah...take it out.. wrap it in a piece of napkin... set it aside.. or switch glasses -like above.. ha ha

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I'm an ice junkie too S.A. Guess it has to do with spending most of my life in 100+ degree weather.
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My ex was very particular about her makeup. Once, for her birthday, she asked me to buy her some foundation. We went to this particular store to buy this very particular foundation that she wanted. So the sales lady comes up with this small flat container of foundation and I handed her my card. Didn't ask the price.

One hundred f*cking dollars!!!!

A Franklin for little piss-ass jar of makeup. I was stunned.

Just another one of ten thousand dumbass things I did for that woman.
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SA, you know that when your husband thinks of you that his mental picture is of that skinny high school girl whom he fell head over heels for.
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If you want to see MY definition of high maintenance, watch a few episodes of House Hunters on HGTV! Sometimes its the husband who is an ass, but most episodes have a HM wife nitpicking everything INCLUDING the husband!

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


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SA no, my husband wouldn't consider your ice request as high maintenance.
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Men say they don't like "high maintenance" women. But they obviously prefer women who wear make-up, have long (or at least stylish hair), wear sexy clothes, high heels, get mani-pedi's , body waxing etc. etc.

So, from the responses so far on the thread, I think it's more accurate to say that men like H.M. women; they just don't like shelling out money for the maintenance.

When you're dating a woman; no, you should not have to pay a penny for her physical upkeep.

But if you marry such a gal, then beauty products and treatments are part of the household budget. And if you want to walk around with that beautiful doll on your arm; it doesn't make sense to complain about the extra hour-and-a-half it took her to make herself look that way.
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I think you are confused. I think most women are confused or at least insecure enough to think it matters. My ex used to spend at least an hour a day putting on make up fixing and fixing her hair. I told her she didn't need it. She was beautiful as she was. But what did I know? I was just her dumb husband!
She would spend a $100 to get a hair cut. If I told it looked nice, she would say how much she hated it. Then she would post a picture on facebook just to have all of hundreds of friends tell her how beautiful she looked.
Honestly, there is nothing sexier than a woman who will just climb out of bed after a good round of sex, throw on a baseball hat and hit the diner for breakfast.


What I have seen over my lifetime (51 y.o.) is that the women in our society that men find the most attractive: nude models (eg. the old Playboy, Penthouse etc. centerfolds), a significant number of pornography performers, mainstream swimsuit and lingerie models, strippers-----these women are highly cosmetically enhanced.

Sure, there will be a niche market for men who prefer "natural beauty". I remember hearing about either a site or print magazine with topless pictures of women who were certified to have natural breasts only---because some men are turned off by plastic t*ts.

But most men aren't. Why would all these glamour girls be caked with make-up and peroxided hair if most men preferred the bare-faced, brunette wearing a baseball cap, baggy t-shirt and flip-flops?

So, to answer your original premise; am I confused?


I go by what I have witnessed and experienced. I suppose in spite of all that, I may still be confused. But I believe I am being honest.
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What I have seen over my lifetime (51 y.o.) is that the women in our society that men find the most attractive: nude models (eg. the old Playboy, Penthouse etc. centerfolds), a significant number of pornography performers, mainstream swimsuit and lingerie models, strippers-----these women are highly cosmetically enhanced.

Sure, there will be a niche market for men who prefer "natural beauty". I remember hearing about either a site or print magazine with topless pictures of women who were certified to have natural breasts only---because some men are turned off by plastic t*ts.

But most men aren't. Why would all these glamour girls be caked with make-up and peroxided hair if most men preferred the bare-faced, brunette wearing a baseball cap, baggy t-shirt and flip-flops?

So, to answer your original premise; am I confused?


I go by what I have witnessed and experienced. I suppose in spite of all that, I may still be confused. But I believe I am being honest.
I would venture to guess most men don't find plastic, overly made up glamour girls all that attractive. They just want someone who is reasonably good looking, that take care of themselves and don't require high maintenance. You are confused by what guys say with what guys do. Few of us want to be around high maintenance glamour queens that you aren't allowed to touch for fear of messing up the image.

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My ex was very particular about her makeup. Once, for her birthday, she asked me to buy her some foundation. We went to this particular store to buy this very particular foundation that she wanted. So the sales lady comes up with this small flat container of foundation and I handed her my card. Didn't ask the price.

One hundred f*cking dollars!!!!

A Franklin for little piss-ass jar of makeup. I was stunned.

Just another one of ten thousand dumbass things I did for that woman.
I'm kind of a stickler for asking what something is going to cost.. I don't like surprises. I have walked away not liking a price. I don't much care if it looks bad either.. I guess it's a good thing I am a woman.. a man might get beat over the head for that or called a cheap *** **** ... but really.. your story here.. that's absurd.
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I would venture to guess most men don't find plastic, overly made up glamour girls all that attractive. They just want someone who is reasonably good looking, that take care of themselves and don't require high maintenance. You are confused by what guys say with what guys do. Few of us want to be around high maintenance glamour queens that you aren't allowed to touch for fear of messing up the image.

You are describing your preferences. Good for you. I believe you are in the minority.

Sex sells. So the images are calculated to reach as many of the target demographic as possible.

With regards to selling sex to straight men; you give the people what they want; not what they need.

If casually made-up, comfortably dressed, natural girls would sell more pin-ups 'n' porn; then that would have been the type of woman that dominated the sexual media.


















I think Marilyn (Norma Jean) and Pamela look beautiful before their transformations. But although, naturally beautiful; apparently natural beauty isn't enough.
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