As soon as they sit down, my husband has piped up 'Oh she's going to be high maintenance!' I've asked how he can tell and what that means to him. His interpretation of high maintenance is more along the lines of being rigid or demanding. Then we see the woman ordering her drink in a very specific 'complicated' way and he says 'I knew it.' It's not just about liking things a certain way though; it's the body language, being rigid and non-inclusive, which does often pan out in the dynamic of the first date.
He doesn't like heavy makeup, false eyelashes, botox faces but he won't comment on appearance as being high maintenance. If he comments about appearance, he will say 'She seems like a good person' and it's generally when they're easy to laugh and more natural. When he refers to high maintenance it's related to behavior.
Behavior and attitude have a lot to do with my definition of high maintenance as well. Wearing makeup and having a personal preference for things is all fine, but having an set back in this preference always being an emergency and not being able to just go with the flow on occasions is the high maintenance part in my opinion. Everything can't always be perfect or to our liking.
My 18 year old daughter, for example, takes an hour to get ready. That doesn't really bother me; I actually think it's cute and we joke about it, but if she happens to be out of a certain make-up or something, she just makes due and goes on until she can logically get more. It's not like the earth stops spinning, and I know several women that would make a big deal of that.
As for the financial side of it, I realize it takes money to have things. An example of high maintenance in that area would be a woman who is always adding to the list an being hard to satisfy. If there are 3 bedrooms, she needs four; or she needs major action because some little cosmetic mishap occurred with the car, etc.
I wonder if your husband would consider me high maintenance... I am a cheap date.. I always order water ...BUT I am particular about how much ICE I have in my glass... sometimes I ask for a cup of ice on the side as few waitresses seem to hear the "fill the cup with ice 1st" part ... I just don't like it if my ice melts before I'm finished.. it bothers me... I want my drinks chillin'...even if it's just water..
This preference wouldn't bother me at all. The issue would come as to how big of an issue it would be if it wasn't done correctly by the waiter. Would there be a small scene? Would we spend 10 minutes trying to get that right before life could go on?
I don't know what it is about going to a restaurant, but it brings out the pickiest in some people. there are people that i avoid going to restaurants with because I know there will always be an issue and my dining with them will not be a relaxed, pleasant experience.
I went out with a woman once who didn't want a slice of lemon on the edge of her water glass. It was brought with lemon, and she had them take it back. The thing is, the waiter had already walked away before she noticed, so her restaurant world stopped turning until she could get the waiter back and bring her a glass of water without the lemon. Of course, my weird mind was wondering why she couldn't have just removed the slice of lemon herself and put it aside?
Using this as an example to expand on high maintenance in general, it would also matter to me if this type of thing carried over into all aspects of life. It's water and ice at the restaurant, is there something like this in every aspect of life?