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What turns me off about a woman? Being too thin.
Ditto for a man. I like men with a little meat on their bones.

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Unappreciative women. Women who expect things to be handed to them. I don't mind working hard for my woman but what really grinds my gears is when she doesn't express that appreciation.
I find the whole topic of appreciation from a man's perspective. I always thought I showed appreciation, but apparently not so. should I start a thread?
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Men say they don't like "high maintenance" women. But they obviously prefer women who wear make-up, have long (or at least stylish hair), wear sexy clothes, high heels, get mani-pedi's , body waxing etc. etc.

So, from the responses so far on the thread, I think it's more accurate to say that men like H.M. women; they just don't like shelling out money for the maintenance.

When you're dating a woman; no, you should not have to pay a penny for her physical upkeep.

But if you marry such a gal, then beauty products and treatments are part of the household budget. And if you want to walk around with that beautiful doll on your arm; it doesn't make sense to complain about the extra hour-and-a-half it took her to make herself look that way.

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Re: What turns you off about a woman?

Confirmation bias. In fairness, I despise it in all people, but in my limited experience, it has been more prevalent in women. YMMV.

I have seen it in many things. Race. Sexism. Religion. Politics.

It is the psychology of victimhood.

When one is looking hard enough for something, they will find it, whether it actually exists or not.

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Men say they don't like "high maintenance" women. But they obviously prefer women who wear make-up, have long (or at least stylish hair), wear sexy clothes, high heels, get mani-pedi's , body waxing etc. etc.

So, from the responses so far on the thread, I think it's more accurate to say that men like H.M. women; they just don't like shelling out money for the maintenance.

When you're dating a woman; no, you should not have to pay a penny for her physical upkeep.

Baut if you marry such a gal, then beauty products and treatments are part of the household budget. And if you want to walk around with that beautiful doll on your arm; it doesn't make sense to complain about the extra hour-and-a-half it took her to make herself look that way.
Just out of curiosity if we are to consider treatments as household budgets does that mean we also get a say is what is done? I'm not married now but when I was this one area was a constant struggle with my x and I. We rarely fought but for this one issue. She wanted a tattoo and I didn't want her to get one. Now we were married so she was going to use our money for it and I disagreed that WE would have to pay for something she wanted and I hated. Her retaliation of course was to tell me I couldn't have lasik which I really wanted. Within 5 months of divorce she has her tattoos and I have lasik so just wondering how you felt about the spousal input on something like that when we are paying for it.

But for the record I have never ever complained about a woman dolling herself up for date night or spending money to look pretty. I do not consider that high maintenance at all just maintenance that comes along with the gender. HIGH maintenance would be I want to get my hair done but only at the most expensive place on town, or nails whatever. Or I want a new car but not just any car a top of the line Lexus, Audi , BMW etc...
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When they smell spoiled.

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Just out of curiosity if we are to consider treatments as household budgets does that mean we also get a say is what is done? I'm not married now but when I was this one area was a constant struggle with my x and I. We rarely fought but for this one issue. She wanted a tattoo and I didn't want her to get one. Now we were married so she was going to use our money for it and I disagreed that WE would have to pay for something she wanted and I hated. Her retaliation of course was to tell me I couldn't have lasik which I really wanted. Within 5 months of divorce she has her tattoos and I have lasik so just wondering how you felt about the spousal input on something like that when we are paying for it.

But for the record I have never ever complained about a woman dolling herself up for date night or spending money to look pretty. I do not consider that high maintenance at all just maintenance that comes along with the gender. HIGH maintenance would be I want to get my hair done but only at the most expensive place on town, or nails whatever. Or I want a new car but not just any car a top of the line Lexus, Audi , BMW etc...


I can't answer about tattoos. I recuse myself, because I can't stand them. I would be furious if my husband got a tattoo. They are hideous.

Lasix is a medical procedure to correct vision. I can't compare that with a tattoo. The only possible concern I would have is that you might be the one in a zillion person whose eyes get damaged by doing this.

But, I do agree that if the $ comes out of the household budget; then, yes, both parties should discuss the use of the money.

I think it's wiser to assign each spouse an allowance each month for their personal money. They can spend it on whatever they want.

I realize that doesn't cover the realm of personal preferences. Money for a tattoo, in my book, is the same as setting the money on fire.

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Men say they don't like "high maintenance" women. But they obviously prefer women who wear make-up, have long (or at least stylish hair), wear sexy clothes, high heels, get mani-pedi's , body waxing etc. etc.

So, from the responses so far on the thread, I think it's more accurate to say that men like H.M. women; they just don't like shelling out money for the maintenance.

When you're dating a woman; no, you should not have to pay a penny for her physical upkeep.

But if you marry such a gal, then beauty products and treatments are part of the household budget. And if you want to walk around with that beautiful doll on your arm; it doesn't make sense to complain about the extra hour-and-a-half it took her to make herself look that way.
Just speaking for myself, I completely disagree. I did include High Maintenance in my list. The less make up the better (I prefer natural beauty). Don't really care for jewelry on women or dressing to a T in sexy clothes. Honestly, a woman just wearing one of my oversized tshirt/dress shirt and undies (optional) is sexy. Likewise, just being able to bum out with some comfy clothes and not afraid to just throw on a baseball cap. Trust me as well, budget is no issue so it is not like I would sit there doing the math, but if I saw a woman all sexied up with high heels, a lot of makeup, jewelry, flashy earrings, etc... she is not going to catch my attention.
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Just speaking for myself, I completely disagree. I did include High Maintenance in my list. The less make up the better (I prefer natural beauty). Don't really care for jewelry on women or dressing to a T in sexy clothes. Honestly, a woman just wearing one of my oversized tshirt/dress shirt and undies (optional) is sexy. Likewise, just being able to bum out with some comfy clothes and not afraid to just throw on a baseball cap. Trust me as well, budget is no issue so it is not like I would sit there doing the math, but if I saw a woman all sexied up with high heels, a lot of makeup, jewelry, flashy earrings, etc... she is not going to catch my attention.

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How old was she?
she was probably about 49 yo.

i will give her the benefit of the doubt and say she was probably trying to play it 'safe'.

by that, i mean she maybe didn't want to have a 'real date' that might result in a guy trying to get too
amorous or try to score on the first date. so instead, she invited 3 guys including me, in a safe setting (a crowded club) to dance,
see their vibe and sense if they're good material.

but it still smacked of a bit of self absorption to me. I mean really? someone will invite 3 guys to a meeting without telling them?
put the shoe on the other foot. a guy inviting 3 girls to a 'date'? yeh, right!

anyway, as it turned out; all for the best. that was the last of her, and i met my current wife a few weeks later.
3.5 years of marital bliss and counting............
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The less make up the better (I prefer natural beauty). . . . . but if I saw a woman all sexied up with high heels, a lot of makeup, jewelry, flashy earrings, etc... she is not going to catch my attention.


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Liar, liar, pants on fire.
While we are talking about turnoffs that you don't believe we have, I'd like to ADD that I simply can't feel masculine when I am with a woman who is taller than 4' 6" (137 cm). I am also turned off by women who think they are so Hot that any man would change his politics just to get a date with them. I'm also turned off by the attitude that a wedding is her special day and all about her and if he shows up sober enough to say "I do" that's all he needs to do. And, my final unbelievable turn off (at least for this post) is Diamonds.
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While we are talking about turnoffs that you don't believe we have, I'd like to ADD that I simply can't feel masculine when I am with a woman who is taller than 4' 6" (137 cm).
So only little people need apply?



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