I meant what I said. If it is acceptable for a woman to say that she can't feel feminine unless her male partner is a full foot taller than her then you should be ready to accept that a man can't really feel masculine unless his female partner is a full foot shorter than him. In fact you should expect it.
I guess what I am really saying is I am really turned off by contradictory expectations, and Double Standards.
Thank you for clearing it up.
I do get it.
I also agree, double standards and unreasonable expectations are stupid.
I like tall men. It is my preference. But if a man likes shorter or taller or bigger or smaller women than I am, I am not offended in the least. That is why I don't feel I have any double standards. I do look sideways when a fat, older, balding man has standards of younger, thinner, hotter women than what he is offering. So I hear ya on the double standards. That is silly. We can only expect to get what we can also give.
But as for the taller man preference...I am 5'4", so although a foot taller than me is wonderful and does make me feel attraction, it is not my bottom line requirement because that is not logical or reasonable....there are not that many men that tall. I am fine with someone at least 6'0", but my preference is 6'2" or 6'3".
I once dated a guy who preferred women who were 100 pounds or less. He was 6'3" and about 215 pounds. I was astounded at the teeny tiny size of women he preferred (especially in comparison to his size). Since this was not me at all, I was quickly turned off by his preference and we would have never been compatible....even though he claimed it was "only" a preference and that I was "just fine". Bleah, no. I can't even be with someone who has a preference like that.
For this very reason, I can totally understand a man rejecting a woman based on her preferences. If she is totally into something that to you seems really creepy, unreasonable, a double standard, or otherwise just "off", I get why you would reject her. It doesn't mean they are wrong about their preference. But if they can't actually deliver something as good as what they are asking for, then it is just weird to me.