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post #1 of 20 (permalink) Old 10-27-2016, 10:56 AM Thread Starter
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When is it time to end a realtionship?

What signs does your SO give you that shows its time to end it.

Some people are not strong enough to end it but still want it over. What are the signs that type of person would give you?

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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

1. Infideilty
2. Lack of intimacy
3. your spouse chooses anything vs time with you
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1. Infideilty
2. Lack of intimacy
3. your spouse chooses anything vs time with you
Not aware of the first one in my marriage, but it wouldn't surprise me at this point. As to the last two. Absolutely!

I really wish she had made any effort to make things work, but alas, she was just too busy to be bothered. She didn't even have time to think about being intimate with me! But she sure had time to plan girls' weekends, cruises and a Disney vacation that I got to pay for.

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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

Any type of abuse.
Violence, Emotional and Financial.
A lot of men don't wish to leave or call the police, but once abuse starts it only goes on to get worse.

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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

When the thought of being intimate with him/her repulses you.
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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

Simple lack of respect, that is constant.

It's always been my feeling that real love stems from respect. When that's gone, things fall apart.

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Simple lack of respect, that is constant.

It's always been my feeling that real love stems from respect. When that's gone, things fall apart.
Speaks volumes, and lack of respect on any level.


Basically whats been going on. I have been dating someone for around 4months. Shes a pot head, never been married, 36 yr old. She has no real ambition in life either, sounds like a real catch doesn't it.

In any event, she has been pulling back over the past month saying its too stressful living in two homes (she stays by me for the weekend mostly) and she cant do things she needs to do. She uses updating her resume and cleaning her home (sher lives with her dad) as examples.

Over the past week I have noticed a change, even more distance. She hasn't answered the phone when I called a few times and hasn't responded to text messages. I did see her for dinner the other night and she acted completely normal, actually gave me things of hers to leave at my house. Since then radio silence, going on 36 hours now.

Are these signs she is looking for me to end it?

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Sounds like she's fading you out.
It's a tactic that is passive, so she doesn't have to tell you directly, and if you confronted her, she could easily deny and act like you're doing the breaking up by mentioning it.

Honestly, she may not be ok with having two places. I was in an 8 month relationship where the guy told me... Only after I said I didn't think we could carry on due to incompatibilities... That he was tired of all the driving. Well, we both did driving and I was sure to make it equal and not all on him. I think I put more miles on my car but I didn't care! He'd never complained about it until then...

Sometimes people fade away, for reasons we don't always know. It might not be mature, but I'd go with the flow. If she wants to reach out, she will. You just might not be available to answer. :-)

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Changing all the locks to the house ...
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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

When these signs appear:

1. not interested in your life or what you are doing
2. little contact throughout the day
3. little indepth conversation
4. shows little care or consideration
5. puts themselves first always
6. does not really talk about the future together
7. more interested in outside activities, being with friends, golfing, sports, work, etc
8. exit affair
9. palpable resentment in their tone
10. no arguments or fighting as no longer interested
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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

When it hurts as much as it helps
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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

1) No sex for more than 6 weeks with no underlying reason
2) not interested in your life or what you are doing
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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

It's respect in my opinion. Once the love is gone all that is left is respect. Once the respect is gone or fading your relationship is done, it's just a matter of time.
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It's respect in my opinion. Once the love is gone all that is left is respect. Once the respect is gone or fading your relationship is done, it's just a matter of time.


Wow. Once the love is gone, I'm gone


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Re: When is it time to end a realtionship?

Cheating
Lying about something big
Emotional or physical abuse (first time)
Not moving in the same direction, totally lost connection (that would take time to see happening)

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