Join Date: Jul 2016
Location: Edging slowly closer to the frozen tundra
Re: Responsibility for other people's decisions
I don't understand - I see nothing in the original posting suggesting that you took responsibility for her decisions. Rather, all you did was decide, for yourself, that you wanted to not be in a relationship with someone who'd decided to take it to a more romantic place than you wanted to be.
You were merely acting on your own preferences. If anything, you declined any responsibility for anything you might have already done to lead her on. So, while you seem to think you took more responsiblity than you should - I think you took less.
So, for the next fwb, figure out what it was you did that told her it would be good for her to attach...and don't do it again! (slight chuckle).
You have to understand I speak only theoretically - I've never had an FWB, and can't say that I would seek one in the future, either.
There are three kinds of business. Your business, my business and God's business. Whose business are you in? -Byron Katie