Re: Responsibility for other people's decisions
Why should you feel responsible? She is an adult, and if you were open and honest about your intentions upfront you shouldn't feel bad. Back in the day I did the FWB thing a time or two, or three.... Yes there were times when someone got too close....but....they were also times that I got too close. That's honestly just the nature of these relationships. Its likely that one party will eventually feel more for the other at some point...usually the fall out isn't as bad though. When one party catches feelings they usually tell you that they feel more for you than just being a FWB. At that point you can decide if you want to end it or not. No need to assume anything.
With that said, in the one instance I did fall for an FWB she ended it literally a day after I told her I had feelings. I certainly wasn't devastated, because we were honest all the way through. I decided to take a chance and we weren't on the same page. In a FWB situation thats the risk you accept. I regretted saying anything, because being an FWB is a heck of a lot better than getting friend zoned. You get the best part of the relationship, without the actual relationship. Its hard to explain, it isn't just sex. They really are your friend...at least that was my experience. For the life of me I can't figure out why so many of us assume women are these delicate flowers that can't handle an FWB situation.