So, agreed to No-Shave November at work...All month long the only comments she has made have been "my that is growing in full now" around week 3 but other than that nothing. Then she posted on facebook yesterday that she's glad December is almost here because I get to shave. But I like my beard. I like my mustache. Took a month but it's looking decent. Anyways, I asked her about it at dinner yesterday and she said she doesn't like it. Doesn't like the way she gets tickled on her skin when I kiss her. I didn't press the issue but it came up again in bed last night. Only this time she said "I just don't know if I can kiss you if you don't shave it. Would you rather shave it or not ever get kisses from me again?". I was a little upset but remembered to stay cool. I said that it was my face and I should be able to do what I want with it. I said I want kisses of course but I also like my beard now. It's the first one I've ever grown and it makes me feel manly. So, opinions on her trying to force me to shave? I saw it as a fitness test and hopefully passed. Can't really tell right now until I see her again tonight when I get home from work.
Do what makes you happy! Personally I think she's crazy... I LOVE manly body hair! Beards, mustaches, chest hair, hell, back hair! LoL!!! She's entitled to not like it if she doesn't want, but that's your face!! Posted via Mobile Device
All I have to add is....I am very happy my husband has no desires for a beard, because I would HATE it and then find many other men more attractive than him. I would also have a very hard time not expressing how I felt about it. Plus I love to touch my husband's face, would miss that adorable dimple on his chin that I like to run my fingers around & push up against. BUt since he likes to shave, this has never been an issue with us. I do, however, like a little stubble, I do find that sexy, even more than newly shaved.
My son is growing a little beard, I think he could look alot better with it gone & attract even more women , but he seems to enjoy that I hate it, it is not like I can tell him what to do - So maybe I will use some reverse Psychology and start telling him how much I suddenly adore it, and see if he shaves it off. He likes to razz me about it -cause he knows I don't like it .
If this is ONLY FOR 1 MONTH and she knows you will be shaving it off (if that is the case), I wouldn't see this as a big deal really, I wouldn't care if my husband did that & I would TRY to keep my mouth shut for that duration ,though I could see me being very excited about Dec 1st, I might even put a Bow on the shaver. I would NOT want to be married to a ZZTop look alike.
I wouldn't see this as a fitness test though. I would see this as a matter of attractivess to your spouse.
I guess you could look at it -as if.... what is she decided to change her hair Flaming red or wants it cut short when you like it long, or wants to do a perm, but you feel it looks like an old lady. I think it is loving to have some consideration for our spouses tastes, as we need their "desire" for us , after all they are the ones who who will be kissing us and making love to us.
Ha ha the main page shows only "Wife not liking the facial..." and I got here to find an entirely different question. Anyway, I've asked my hubby to try different things in terms of his facial hair and on those occasions when he's done something with it just to please me, we both end up unhappy. I guess it is a fitness test of a kind like you say. But you need to do what you like because its such a personal thing for you. Don't shave just because she wants you to. But maybe compromise with her and see if she'll be happy with you adjusting another, less personal or important (to you) part of your look.
For some reason I thought this question was in the Ladies section , my mistake ! I guess you was looking for men's opionions only. They will probably disagree with me on that Fitness testing thing.
Oh well you at least got one idea of how your wife may "feel" on the subject, from another who doesn't care for beards.
I can't stand beards. I don't know any man with a beard that I would say is attractive. I don't mind goatees or mustaches...but they remind me of my dad lollll. My husband shaves everyday for work and I love a clean shaven face
I wonder how men would feel if women stopped shaving for a month. LOLLL
I LOVEEEE a bit of facial hair...so I prob cant comment too much , but just tell her when Mo vembers over youll get rid??? If you want to that is ....otherwise youll have to come up with a compromise...My Husband has had facial hair since before we met, I think its very rugged and sexy (Dare I say LOL ) so I think that youll have to come up with some sort or little compromise so that you are both happy....although it is your face and also if she decided to change her har lets say would you object? Is that kind of the equivalent does anyone think?
Hope it works out .......
Edited to say ----- OMG didnt realise this was the mans section....whoops (i just looked for 'new posts' and this came up) Yikes sorry boys........(Littlelady closes door behind her)
I hope you raised some money to help prostate cancer awareness/research during November!!
Hubs has grown facial hair before. Yes, very scratchy for the smooching. I was conflicted about it because I like the unkept look - facial hair and slightly long hair too. I did end up asking him to shave as it got too scratchy. He refused lol. It wasn't a big deal for us. But then he ended up shaving for a new job anyway ....he was determined to keep his hair slightly long but the hairdresser cut too much off. He got the job at least.
To shave or not to shave? It's up to you but when I surprised hubs (and myself - one of my spur of the moment decisions) with a super short haircut a few years ago, he was nice about it but told me he prefers me with long hair. It's him I want to attract and my hair is long once again!
Tried conditioning it, makes the hairs softer and less scratchy.... have had a goatee for years and it needs a bit of loving to maintain. Can't expect that a full beard would be any less demanding.
I prefer clean shaved faces or shadows over beards
cause
beards hide handsome faces.
I always miss the face.
Anyway, how about you and she agree how long you should keep the beard? Tell her you like having it for now but will shave it on a certain date and not grow one back for a year and go back and forth or something.
My H also didn't shave for the month of November he makes his decision on his facial hair after all it's his face but I only ask for one thing and that is that he keeps it trimmed by that I mean a neat mustache and beard. He once grew out his beard in the winter but refused to trim anything so his mustache grew over his lips and would actually catch bits of food! He shaved everything off because he didn't want to bother trimming LOL. So after that is when I told him trimming will be required if he wants to continue to grow out his facial hair because I don't like it when he looks like a bum. Posted via Mobile Device
funny how so many women prefer what is generally required if you want to move into the executive offices.
I would ask you is it that important to you? I've had a mustache since 18 and a beard since I left the Navy. It's my preferance and my wife doesn't have an issue with it. Everything your wife asks of you isn't a fitness test. She should probably not communicate that you shave or else no kisses. It's all about how much you want to keep the look. My wife shaved her head because the chemicals she used in her hair were messing with her scalp and the quickest/easiest thing to do was chop it off. I didn't begin to find other women more attractive than her. I doubt your wife would stop kissing you because you grow a beard. You can use it to score some points. Make a big deal about it then come out of the shower shaven and say "I did it for you".
I love passionate kissing from my husband, even after 12 years of marriage. Facial hair hurts like heck, so I prefer clean shaven skin. No stubble either.
My husband prefers a clean shaven woman, so it works both ways. We both shave everday. Posted via Mobile Device
I don't see it as a fitness test. She's expressing her preference. Strongly. . And personally, I think you'd be foolish to ignore it, since it affects her kissing enjoyment.
None of my partners has been in favor of facial hair, and I'm willing to to go with them on that. It's not a hill I'm going to make a stand on; it's simply not that big of an issue for me, and I'd rather not endure scrunched up faces when I kiss someone.
But as a guy, thank you for doing that. . Rather than grow my facial hair, I just supported some of my friends who did.
Not sure your wife is testing you, maybe you are testing her?
My H had a beard only once around 12 years ago or so. He looked very nice in it, but it was truly nasty - it was indeed cringeworthy to be around. Couldn't help flinching from it when he would try and kiss around on me.
He asked if I liked his beard - I would say that he looked nice in it because he did, but he did notice the involuntary flinching away from it. One night, he walked out of the shower in to the bedroom and was clean-shaven - stated he'd rather have more smooching than have a bristly beard.
I never did ask him to shave it. But it was nice that he cared enough to shave it off to make things more comfortable for me. It's the same thing with my hair. I know that he *loves* long hair. So, I have hair down past the middle of my back, but it is a pain to maintain. If he said he liked pixie cuts, I'd probably chop it all off in a quick minute.
Wife not liking the facial hair.... 
