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post #31 of 33 (permalink) Old 11-19-2016, 11:21 AM
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Re: Need Advice: Sex & Emotions

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She won't go back unfortunately... The pain seems to be right after entry in most cases. I am above average in length but normal in width. I've tried "not going in all the way" but it doesn't really help.
This is non-negotiable. If she wants her marriage to work, she MUST go back. Period.

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.
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Our conversation ended with me saying "I really wish we could find a way to make you happy again" to which she responded "There isn't a way and maybe you shouldn't be married to me". This really shocked me because we weren't fighting... it just came out of nowhere. These mini episodes have been happening a lot recently and I just don't know what to do anymore.
If you understood "womanese" you'd know what she meant. Hint, its one of two things. First, she tired of you riding her azz about it and is telling you if you can't accept she has a problem with you inserting yourself into her, hit the trail, or two, she's flat out doesn't want to be married and is keeping you cut off hoping you'll just hit the trail. My guess is she'd desires to be single, or at least not married to you, and her depression is situational. Once free, her depression will subside.
Take my word for it my man, if it don't come easy, you need to let it go. (lest you're in for a miserable life always giving and on a starvation diet of affection. A few years out, some chick will put something on you Ajax won't take off and you'll become a man you never wanted to be. Don't say it won't happen cuz it will. You'll be saying to yourself, "if she really had a problem, why can't it be diagnosed"

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Re: Need Advice: Sex & Emotions

Guy in Colorado, WorkingOnMe, VladTheImpaler! have all hit the nail on the head. If you have a young wife that is already that averse to intimacy, 99.9% chance it's not going to get better. You can hang on and be the guy who one day warns others about the '20 years you spent in a $exless marriage', or you can start exploring YOUR options. Life is short brother, and our partners have to be willing to ride shotgun with us. Sounds like you have one that doesn't even want to get in the car with you.

I still feel you have an obligation to help her best you can through her issues, but my point is that eventually you are going to have a decision to make if things don't change. Just preparing you to the fact that is a real possibility.
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