12-02-2011, 02:04 PM
Join Date: Dec 2011
| | Re: Where does an Ex-nice guy draw the line?
It's not about doing or not doing things for your wife.
It's about doing what you want.
If you want to do something to please your wife, go for it. As long as it makes you happy.
I like to see my wife smile, so I give here some flowers that were growing in the yard. Because I wanted to see her smile, not because I felt I had to.
If you are only doing it to please her, and you get no pleasure from it. Stop.
Examine why you are doing something. Are you washing her car because you hope she'll notice and reciprocate in some way? Or do you wash her car because having clean vehicles is what you want.
Another way to look at it is this, if you are going to wash her car hoping to get some sex later, you are making a covert contract.
Instead, cut to the chase and tell her exactly what you want.
The hardest part is letting yourself understand what you want, why you want it and how to get it. It's not about her, it's about you and how you are honest with yourself.
Last edited by Mistys dad; 12-02-2011 at 02:08 PM.