They are in touch over the phone since they have actual business together and he lives in another state. I do believe he has SO. I was actually being vindictive and trying to find out so that I could share my information with her.
I hate reading what you posted, "your children have already lost." That is what kills me.
Some of us are blunt. We are trying to push you "off center", to do what needs to be done.
I apologize for my remarks. I do not apologize for my thoughts.
Remember, "That which does not kill me, strengthens me". Get pissed, get determined.
I repeat, Fifty percent of marriages fail. You are not being singled out by Fate. These things, horrible things.....happen to good people. You have a whole bunch of years ahead of you. Find an honest women to share your life with.
She failed you.
Your children will see you plenty. You will ensure that. The courts will ensure that.
And they will see you at your best.....without the strife, disgust-distrust, anguish that a continued marriage would bring.
See the attorney. Get the papers, blow up the other mans lies and deceit. Do this without telling your wife....tipping him and her off.
In the meantime, before your serve her divorce papers [at work would be nice] do the "180" actions and steps.
If you were NOT hurt I would not comment as I have. You have a conscience. Her? It has left the living room.