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post #46 of 63 (permalink) Old 12-14-2016, 02:30 PM
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Re: Almost certain friend stole from me - not sure what to do

I have a plan to solve this mystery!

Set your friend up. It's safe to say that if he's guilty, he'll do it again given the opportunity.

So find an item, maybe a broken iphone you can purchase on ebay for a small sum, or some other small electronic device that has no value but looks like it does.

Invite the friend over. Leave him alone with the item available for him to do with as he pleases, but of course don't just leave it sitting on the middle of the table, that's too obvious and he might not take it even if he wants to because he'll be easily caught. Put it with some important papers on a desk, sort of sticking out or whatever.

If it's gone when he's gone, you know.

P.S. I hope this goes without saying but don't leave any other valuables within his reach.
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I have a plan to solve this mystery!

Set your friend up. It's safe to say that if he's guilty, he'll do it again given the opportunity.

So find an item, maybe a broken iphone you can purchase on ebay for a small sum, or some other small electronic device that has no value but looks like it does.

Invite the friend over. Leave him alone with the item available for him to do with as he pleases, but of course don't just leave it sitting on the middle of the table, that's too obvious and he might not take it even if he wants to because he'll be easily caught. Put it with some important papers on a desk, sort of sticking out or whatever.

If it's gone when he's gone, you know.

P.S. I hope this goes without saying but don't leave any other valuables within his reach.
I doubt he'd be stupid enough to try it again - but regardless, I wouldn't invite him over again.

I suspect once he knows he's busted and he's on the radar, the fun/thrill goes away for him.
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This sucks - because I consider him one of my very best friends. But this is absolutely a deal breaker for me - but of course, I don't have video evidence or a confession. If I knew 100% he did it - that would be it - I'm done. Of course there's the minute possibility he didn't, but geez - I really don't think that's the case.

So - any advice?
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I think you need to confront him and use short language.

*You may see it on him, he may even confess.

*Getting into confrontations makes you stronger. Next time it could be something else, but you learn from every serious confrontation.

*It makes you better at spitting liars, something you will benefit from every day.


Of course afterwards, you dump him and I would also spread the word.

Finally, any friend of yours that still sees him, you cut out as well. He obviously respects this thief more than you,
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No communication since his weak-ass denial.
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If he was a teenager pulling this crap......OK. He will grow out of it...hopefully.

He is an adult pulling YOUR patience, pulling HIS pud in satisfaction.

Do not let him get off.........at your expense and his pleasure.

Hit his unlike icon, unfriend him. Let him play his music in his closet, alone.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall... Saved from harm by my friends.
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No communication since his last text denying it until last night, when he sent this:

"Hey man. We need to get this straightened out. I know we both have the ability to get to it like adults, so let's chat it out. This is nothing worth losing an awesome friendship over. I miss you man, let's get to the bottom of it."
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No communication since his last text denying it until last night, when he sent this:

"Hey man. We need to get this straightened out. I know we both have the ability to get to it like adults, so let's chat it out. This is nothing worth losing an awesome friendship over. I miss you man, let's get to the bottom of it."
I'm going to run his text through my BS Translator. "Hey man, we need to get this straightened out so I can come over to your house again and steal more of your stuff".

You could respond. "Everyone makes mistakes. Return the stolen item and we'll just pretend it never happened. Until you do so, do not contact me again".

Then you'll either 1- hear from him again with the same old BS at which time you can start blocking him on phone, social media, etc. 2- he'll return your item and THEN you can block him on phone, email, and social media...
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I'm going to run his text through my BS Translator. "Hey man, we need to get this straightened out so I can come over to your house again and steal more of your stuff".
Yup. Gaslighting, big time. Basically calling me immature.
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