Re: Almost certain friend stole from me - not sure what to do
your friend doesn't live in eastern PA by chance.... does he?
Because he fits the description perfectly of one of my brothers. It's eerie.
With my POS narcissist klepto brother, the way to deal with it is to wait and watch. Ultimately, he ALWAYS ends up telling someone (either bragging or a sort of confessional) about what he took, or how he screwed someone over. If i know i'm going to see him, i lock up or put away anything i don't want him to take. Especially if it can fit in his pocket. He's like a raccoon with small shiny things. Especially music gear and apple productsIpods/iphones. He's a musician, and people leave things unattended at concerts/backstage/festivals. It makes him feel superior to take things, to own the nice things, to brag about it. And he gets some kind of rush from it, getting away with it.
If you are friends with my brother, or someone like him, I advise you to let him know you think he took it, and that you'd like it back. Calm and succinct, like you know, not like you are guessing. And then I'd freeze him out. Let him know that he gets to pick stealing from you once, or being your friend. If you're a pushover, or you let him rugsweep it, he would perceive it as weakness. And he'll do it again if he can.
I could be wrong, and my opinion is shaped by my experiences. If that's so, i apologize. But that's what I would do.
Forget enough to get over it, remember enough so it doesn't happen again.