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Need gift ideas for GF

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#1 ·
First Christmas together. I have a few ideas but looking for a different perspective.

Thanks
 
#2 ·
Do what I do.

Acknowledge that as guys we have no clue and ask her what she wants.

Have her send you a link to the item, buy it on line, have it pre-giftwrapped and all you gotta do is hand her a card.

Nothing says "I Love You" more than that.
 
#5 ·
Black convertible sports car! Full leather interior. The works! Merry Christmas, baby!

Not knowing how long you have been dating and how well/deeply goes the relationship but how about a Pandora bracelet? Get the bracelet and start with a Christmas charm for your first Christmas. If you progress down the road you can add more charms in the coming years together.
 
#8 ·
You probably missed it, but she has already shown you a couple of things that she would like. Took me forever to pickup on when my wife said something like, "Oh, that's cute" or showed a lot of interest in certain items. Now when I see her interested in something that she does not buy, I make a mental note.

EDIT: for the true coffee lover: https://www.deathwishcoffee.com/
 
#13 ·
Gift giving can either show that you know someone or expose that you don't.


Put some thought into who she is, not just what she likes. eg for me I am not a gifts type of person, I don't like stuff just for the sake of it and much prefer "experiences". MrH has given me some fabulous gifts over the years, season tickets to the Opera, concert tickets, hot air balloon rides etc. Unfortunately I have figured out what he has bought me for my BD but I would die before giving it away that I know it is tickets to my favourite band.

Like FIP said, be careful with jewellery, it is such a personal choice. I really dislike the pandora bracelets and would never wear one.

It is ok to ask for suggestions from her. Have you thought about an "experience" instead of stuff? A holiday or tickets to something she likes.
 
#15 ·
Put some thought into who she is, not just what she likes.
Absolutely agree!

If you're unsure at this stage, this could be a good way to find out by blending a couple of things you know she likes with the experiences. An example could be a coffee tasting experience (and gift her nice coffee with the voucher, something like that), or book her into a candle-making workshop along with a physical gift such as personalized candles (your message printed on label / lid of candles - find someone on Etsy).

You could get creative and combine all the elements you listed for a 'Pampering Weekend Package' Includes pajamas, candles, breakfast in bed with her preferred coffee (served in a cat mug), then day out shopping together for shoes and clothes.

My husband recently selected a pair of shoes for me that I adore. We have been together a long time and he knows me well. A friend complimented the shoes at a party, told her hubs had chosen them, she looked a bit shocked and asked if he could get her some shoes too. The personal taste can be a risk, sometimes it's worth it, eh sometimes it's how you learn. I'm not a fan of the Pandora bracelets, myself. My husband would know this. Hope this helps!
 
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#19 ·
Jewelry is tough unless you know her taste REALLY well. Another cheat so they she is still surprised - ask her best friend to come with you when you are picking something out. She likely knows her taste better than you.

Coffee cupping might be fun - sort of like a coffee tasting. Does she have a chemex? Home page

If she's really into specialist coffees, as in ones from a particular farm or with a particular flavor profile, chemex is a good way to show those off. You could get her the filters that go with it. You could also get her a spice grinder like this: Krups Fast-Touch Coffee and Spice Grinder | Sur La Table

so she can grind her coffee fresh every day before brewing it - makes a big difference to the flavor.
 
#21 ·
If she likes the candle experience, try buying her luminara candles- but deals at QVC.com . It's a real wax candle with an artificial flame and a timer.

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#23 ·
If she likes coffee she will LOVE this. The Aeropress @ ~ $30. My wife got me one a couple of years ago for Christmas and it's the best gift I'd gotten in a long time. I had no idea about this thing, she found it and got it. She's not a coffee drinker either. It's a start anyway LOL.

Aerobie AeroPress Coffee & Espresso Maker

~MS
Let me check... Im not sure if she likes expresso. But I did look at it and going to consider this...

Thanks
 
#25 ·
Find a local coffee or candle shop, a small business owner, that sells stuff she may not be willing to pay for (like maybe she buys the cheaper product at a discount store, but would really love to have a 'good' candle set. Buy some stuff to put in a basket, include some other things you think remind you of her, like a CD of music she likes or good gloves or scarf, or a special key ring, and include the candles or coffee - along with a gift certificate to go back to that store. Or if it's a place that has classes, include a certificate for the two of you to go together for such a class.
 
#27 ·
What I find to really work is pick a beautiful piece of wrapping paper,go to hallmark and buy the most romantic,soppy Christmas card you can buy and after you put it in the envelope wrap it in the gift wrapping.
Oh and fill the envelope with as much cash as you can afford!
 
#31 ·
Gift card for an individual and couple massage is always a hit. Gift card to her favorite pedicure/manicure place will get used.

Diamond studded earrings are always a solid choice if she doesn't have any.

I'm getting my girl the game of Cornhole with her favorite NFL team painted on it. We always like playing it, so why not get something we can both use throughout the year.

She knows I'm saving up for a nice diamond engagement ring, so nothing crazy this Christmas.
 
#35 ·
On a serious note here is a really good idea.If you contact your nearest guide dog training centre you can part sponsor an assistance dog,either seeing eye or autistic assistance.Depending on your generosity they may let you name the dog and will always update you on training and when the dog is homed.This can be done as a gift and is also a very kind act.
 
#36 ·
This is a nice idea.

I disagree with the others somewhat. Coffee is a completely impersonal gift. I love coffee, but that's not what I want at Christmas from my boyfriend (if I had one). Jewelry, as long as it's classic (like a diamond solitaire pendant) is a beautiful idea, unless she absolutely doesn't wear any jewelry at all.

Do you have any idea what she may be getting you?
 
#44 ·
Actually my brother got his wife an electerlux top of the line canister vacuum cleaner the first year they were married, must be thirty years ago. Still married, still devoted to each other, and she still uses it. Oh, she is the managing partner in a mid size CPA firm for what is is worth.

I recall your orignal thread here on TAM. It is good to see you doing well! How are your children?
 
#46 ·
My H is the one who likes jewelry, clothes and cologne. So that's what he kept buying me. I like a nice, put-together home, so I kept buying him tools so he could take care of the house. We did this for 3 decades, neither of us happy with the gifts. Until I finally got him to understand I really DID want a new vacuum or a barbecue pit or bookshelves. I had already started getting him the clothes and cologne and jewelry, but he wasn't taking the hint and caring if I liked what he got me. It took our 20 year old daughter having a 'talk' with him before he finally started taking my requests seriously, lol.

Bottom line, get her what SHE cares about, not what society tells you to give.
 
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