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post #136 of 198 (permalink) Old 12-14-2016, 02:32 PM
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I'm not a guy I don't know how they think. But I can't imagine one blowing a load in their new girlfriends face and thinking... I want to grow old with her and I want her to be the mother of my children. maybe men don't think like that lol
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Actually I did have a girlfriend who hopped off just as I was about to finish and took me orally. And the first thing I thought was I want to marry this woman.
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Actually I did have a girlfriend who hopped off just as I was about to finish and took me orally. And the first thing I thought was I want to marry this woman.
Yeah I married her too. I realized way too late that I was thinking with the wrong head.
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Not seeing why you'd have that sort of reaction to the post in question.

Except for her not showing him as much appreciation as he'd like, and her sex drive not being as strong as it was originally, not seeing a problem here. Certainly not one to off yourself over.
Because she's not a woman he'd give the time of day to, let alone marry - and that's okay - and that I 'put up with it', I suppose.

The way I come across here, about my wife, is probably much harsher sounding than it is in real life. The way I make it sound is the antithesis of most men's choice for a partner. While my issues with her are valid, and worthy of my time here on TAM, to some people here, it's black and white - fish or cut bait.

I'm not the only one here on TAM with a wife like this. Another regular poster is married to what could be my wife's twin sister, lol. I have literally double checked the name next to some of his posts to make sure it wasn't mine originally, and I had forgotten about it.

FWIW @browser, my wife doesn't have a sex drive, she's asexual (also something some folks here will debate, but I digress). Her "sex drive" was due to her recognizing that it's an important part of finding a mate, as well as relationships. As I said, I kind of shot myself in the foot (see the post in question) by telling her she doesn't need to be like that... sigh. I made my bed, lesson learned, all of that.

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Every time I read your posts about your wife I want to swallow strychnine.
Sooo... I should talk about her more?
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Ok this is an embarrassing topic but let me prefaces that this is not about me but my cousin.
My cousin is late 20s and has never had problems getting men. The problem is escalating it to a serious relationship. I personally think it's bc she LOVES sex and is aggressive and is a "freak" too early in the relationship that men dont respect her and no longer view her as a wife or mother type. So my question to men... you start dating this awesome girl and she let's say... gives you oral all the time and swallows every time or let's you go on her face and loves it, can you see this as a serious relationship? Is this marriage material? It seems from watching her that the relationship starts out so heavy in sex and it stays all about sex and doesn't develop into a more adult serious relationship.


So let's get back to you @katiecrna. What do you think of the dialog so far? You've gotten lots of opinions.

You've said she has low self esteem and probably does this to keep a man. You've indicated above that the relationship stays all about sex.

Regardless of people's opinions about the nature of the sex, I see the low self esteem and lack of other relationship development being really key here.

Can I ask a few questions?

Do you think she tries to develop the relationship non-sexually?

Does she try to go on dates that require talking and getting to know each other?

Does she go out as a couple with other friends and shoot the bull or whatever she and her friends normally do?

Does she even have girlfriends that she hangs around with?

How long do her relationships generally last?

Where does she meet these guys?

Does she ever get into a relationship with someone she first develops a friendship with (like coworker, neighbor, friend of a friend)?






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post #142 of 198 (permalink) Old 12-14-2016, 03:27 PM
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I was thinking of sexual activities that involve significant physical risk.

Picking-up strangers - risk or assault / rape. Unprotected sex - risk of disease.

There is lots of exciting fun sex that is not risky, and that is all good. I'm just saying that in addition there is some exciting sex that does have real risks - and I'm OK with people who decide to take those risks as long as they do so knowingly.



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I personally don't equate wild, fun sex with extreme risk taking sports. I don't see the correlation. But maybe you are talking about sexual risks I hadn't thought of, like doing it on scaffolding outside of a 20-story window.

I'm generally a fairly low risk taking type of person, when it comes to physical things. I would never do sky diving or bungee jumping. Not even those kinds they have set up at carnivals, which must be safe or else they wouldn't have them there, right? No way I would do that. Mostly I'm just afraid of heights.

I'm also pretty risk averse to being around too many strangers or being in a strange place. I like to feel secure. I don't like ferris wheels because they go too damn high. But I kind of don't like carnivals in general, because "stranger danger".

And yet, compared to my peers and almost anyone I've talked to about it, I've had the wildest sexual life of anyone I encounter. Even though some of them HAVE been sky diving and jumped off cliffs in bat suits.

Now, to be fair to myself, being a gymnast, there are certain things I would do in that sport that would certainly be extremely risky to anyone who wasn't trained in that sport. Running as fast as you can toward a large basically immovable object, then jumping on a spring board and then hurtling your body toward it, just as one example of a risky behavior I've done and still would do (vault exercise). But I learned from gymnastics NOT to take risks on trying things you aren't capable of at this time or without the proper spot by a coach, and landing pads. So while I love the adrenaline pumping through my veins when I am doing my sport, I never ever take risks in it that I can see in advance.
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Sooo... I should talk about her more?
I guess if you hate me that much....
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Not seeing why you'd have that sort of reaction to the post in question.

Except for her not showing him as much appreciation as he'd like, and her sex drive not being as strong as it was originally, not seeing a problem here. Certainly not one to off yourself over.
When the person only wants to vent, without doing anything to change their situation, and then coming back to vent and vent some more...it gets frustrating for some of us. But that is a threadjack for another day.
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When the person only wants to vent, without doing anything to change their situation, and then coming back to vent and vent some more...it gets frustrating for some of us. But that is a threadjack for another day.
Is this a vent about people who vent?
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Actually I did have a girlfriend who hopped off just as I was about to finish and took me orally. And the first thing I thought was I want to marry this woman.
What number date was that?
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When the person only wants to vent, without doing anything to change their situation, and then coming back to vent and vent some more...it gets frustrating for some of us.
Well you just described a solid 80% of the people on this forum so if it's making you suicidal than maybe that's something you want to address....

Like I've said before, it's still worth offering advice because even if these "venters" don't take it maybe some poor lost soul anonymous reader will.

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Well you just described a solid 80% of the people on this forum so if it's making you suicidal than maybe that's something you want to address....
The vents aren't what's making @bandit.45 suicidal.

He announced his plans to off himself and explains all the reasons on this thread here:

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What number date was that?
She hopped off his d!ck and took it in her mouth at the perfect moment.

I doubt it was a date, more likely it was 10 minutes after meeting her in a bar, in the alleyway out back.
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The vents aren't what's making @bandit.45 suicidal.

He announced his plans to off himself and explains all the reasons on this thread here:

Will Suicide Bar Me From Heaven?
I think you're on to something there....
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