I specifically wanted the type of men who DO care that the girl holds out.. I've always felt these are the more "Marriage material MEN".... giving my body to someone meant a great deal to me, emotional strings, wanting to fuse with them in every way.... so if it meant little to nothing to the man (just a hot roll in the hay), he could easily walk, go fuse himself with another ... he needs to be with women who are OK with that....
My husband would never trust a woman who had sex so easily -to be faithful.. intimacy is very special to him...he wants to know it's also very special and meaningful to the woman..
You know, we have often found some similarities in ourselves and our partners, and I got to wondering how much our ages at the beginning of our relationship have to do with things. With the similarities we all have, there are a few seemingly stark differences that perhaps the years of life experience can explain.
While you and my wife had similar backgrounds and experiences growing up, a few key differences led to very different lives, yet here we all are at similar places in our lives with similar partners, similar attitudes, similar desires.
I do wonder how you or your husband would fare if you found yourself in the dating pool again, as I did...this is where my wondering about life experience comes in....for myself, what would take me ages to figure out when I was much younger, getting answers to questions, wondering about anothers intentions, basically figuring out a persons character...the years of life experience honed my ability in that regard to come to conclusions in a fraction of the time.
If any of that makes any sense...