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post #16 of 198 (permalink) Old 12-10-2016, 09:20 AM
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Either she picks $h1tty men, or maybe she has a rep that attracts the wrong type of guys thinking she is an easy go
Umm..she IS an easy go.
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@katiecrna - I'm not in my 20's so I can't speak for that age group anymore. I am divorced and not dating. I haven't been in a physical relationship for a long ⏳ time.

I wouldn't say a woman's past is totally irrelevant just as a guy's isn't. But the value a person places on it varies, of course. Speaking for myself - I don't care too much about a woman's past or how she acquired any sills. Nope, I really don't. I care if she's inspiring and I can feel comfortable that I can make her happy.

I suppose if I just met a girl in a club and the night ended in wild pig sex it might make me think twice...but that says as much about me as it might her. Long story short, I think it depends.

Maybe this is a bit about her choices of guys and the places and circumstances they're meeting??

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Yea I see your point. I think she is just dating young immature guys. She picks the wrong ones and she attracts the wrong ones. I feel bad bc she is the nicest, most loyal loving good hearted, fun and funniest person I know. I think that's why it bothers me so much because I just think guys don't respect her bc she leads with her sexuality instead of her other amazing traits.
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All my girl friends act similar to OPs cousin, apparently I am a weirdo for being sexually inexperienced and getting married!
I thought men didn't care about that stuff anymore, unless they are religious oriented.

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All my girl friends act similar to OPs cousin, apparently I am a weirdo for being sexually inexperienced and getting married!
I thought men didn't care about that stuff anymore, unless they are religious oriented.

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I am by no means religiously oriented, but being honest I would not have much interest in pursuing someone who had developed a reputation (which sounds like quite possibly what has happened to the OPs cousin)
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I specifically wanted the type of men who DO care that the girl holds out.. I've always felt these are the more "Marriage material MEN".... giving my body to someone meant a great deal to me, emotional strings, wanting to fuse with them in every way.... so if it meant little to nothing to the man (just a hot roll in the hay), he could easily walk, go fuse himself with another ... he needs to be with women who are OK with that....

My husband would never trust a woman who had sex so easily -to be faithful.. intimacy is very special to him...he wants to know it's also very special and meaningful to the woman..
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In my brief foray back into the dating world between marriages, I don't think it's so much a change in men, as it is in women being more open about things, and the differences between men and women are not so apparently stark as they once were.

I was the dating freak man who didn't take every opportunity to bed all the readily available dime a dozen sexually freaky women.

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Katie--maybe it's more a matter of WHERE she's looking for these men. If she's hunting for a husband in bars or on Tinder, she's gonna have a bad time. I personally don't think having copious amounts of awesome sex would drive me away from a woman, but hey--what do I know?

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I am by no means religiously oriented, but being honest I would not have much interest in pursuing someone who had developed a reputation (which sounds like quite possibly what has happened to the OPs cousin)
Small town/Big City difference.
If you dated in the city, it's unlikely you'd know the reputation of someone unless they told you.

If a man has a high drive and a reputation himself, why would he marry a sexually inexperienced woman?

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They don't care about it because they are getting sex handed to them on a plate.It will be a different matter when they want to settle down,they don't want the local bike who everyone had a ride on.Think about introducing your new fiancée to your friends and family knowing half of your friends had slept with her.It is the old lock and key story,inherently unfair to women but there you go.
By the way I was in Ireland recently and you are doing really well with your chain of supermarkets,I saw them everywhere lol.
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I specifically wanted the type of men who DO care that the girl holds out.. I've always felt these are the more "Marriage material MEN".... giving my body to someone meant a great deal to me, emotional strings, wanting to fuse with them in every way.... so if it meant little to nothing to the man (just a hot roll in the hay), he could easily walk, go fuse himself with another ... he needs to be with women who are OK with that....

My husband would never trust a woman who had sex so easily -to be faithful.. intimacy is very special to him...he wants to know it's also very special and meaningful to the woman..
You know, we have often found some similarities in ourselves and our partners, and I got to wondering how much our ages at the beginning of our relationship have to do with things. With the similarities we all have, there are a few seemingly stark differences that perhaps the years of life experience can explain.

While you and my wife had similar backgrounds and experiences growing up, a few key differences led to very different lives, yet here we all are at similar places in our lives with similar partners, similar attitudes, similar desires.

I do wonder how you or your husband would fare if you found yourself in the dating pool again, as I did...this is where my wondering about life experience comes in....for myself, what would take me ages to figure out when I was much younger, getting answers to questions, wondering about anothers intentions, basically figuring out a persons character...the years of life experience honed my ability in that regard to come to conclusions in a fraction of the time.

If any of that makes any sense...

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Yea I see your point. I think she is just dating young immature guys. She picks the wrong ones and she attracts the wrong ones. I feel bad bc she is the nicest, most loyal loving good hearted, fun and funniest person I know. I think that's why it bothers me so much because I just think guys don't respect her bc she leads with her sexuality instead of her other amazing traits.
You seem like a pretty nice introspective and compassionate cousin. Have you discussed your thoughts with her?

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I would agree with this. I've not been with anyone easy like this but I've had many friends who have and yep, what you're saying. Could she be happy in an exclusive relationship with that kind of sex drive? Could she commit to one guy and actually do it? Being easy is fine and all, but at some point could one guy be enough for her? If she's an quick panty dropper that can be very scary to guys who looking for something serious in a relationship.

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Small town/Big City difference.
If you dated in the city, it's unlikely you'd know the reputation of someone unless they told you.

If a man has a high drive and a reputation himself, why would he marry a sexually inexperienced woman?

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Yes and no. People have a tendency to run in the same smaller circles. Of course, small town makes it harder but wouldn't say a large city makes it unlikely.

Also, I don't equate a high drive and rep as the same, as I have a high drive. To me, it is just a matter of finding someone who you are compatible with, share the same/similar morals/values. This is more important if you are looking for a relationship of course and not just a quick round of fun.
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