My cousin is late 20s and has never had problems getting men. The problem is escalating it to a serious relationship.
I personally think it's bc she LOVES sex and is aggressive and is a "freak" too early in the relationship that men dont respect her and no longer view her as a wife or mother type. So my question to men... you start dating this awesome girl and she let's say... gives you oral all the time and swallows every time or let's you go on her face and loves it, can you see this as a serious relationship? Is this marriage material? It seems from watching her that the relationship starts out so heavy in sex and it stays all about sex and doesn't develop into a more adult serious relationship.
I'm 41, so maybe there is a generation gap or something, but I've always figured regular manual, oral with swallowing, facials, multiple positions, and a little hair pulling/back clawing were vanilla and standard. I wouldn't consider any of that freaky.
For me, sexual compatibility in terms of drive and tastes is very important. I have a healthy drive and, much as I love vanilla, I couldn't live on vanilla alone. I prefer to establish sexual compatibility early on, so I don't see a problem with her timing. If they don't click on all levels, why waste each others time?
DH and I wouldn't have considered each other marriage material if we weren't
"freaks". Who wants to have a boring sex life for 50 or 60 years??
Is a woman like your cousin marriage material? Absolutely. The trick is finding a compatible partner. The right man for her will appreciate her sexuality and the rest of her, too.
I mean let's be real do girls REALLY like to give BJ and swallow and get facials? I personally don't think so. I think they feel empowered, or they do it bc they think it makes their men happy. I'm not saying that's wrong I think it's nice to love to make your partner happy.
Men would you love your wife to squirt all over your face when she orgasms? No you probably wouldn't.
OMG, YES! Yes, women really DO enjoy giving bj's, swallowing, and getting facials. Not all of us, obviously, but some. I can't really explain it properly without getting graphic, but all of the above are total turn-ons, very enjoyable, and hot as hell.
Yes, there are men who find making a woman squirt anywhere on them very hot and consider it to be a huge compliment and turn on.
You mentioned that your cousin doesn't seem to want to talk much with you on this subject. I think you might have to try to wrap your mind around the idea that some sex acts you find unappealing are actually very appealing to some women and really understand that before you'll be able to really understand your cousin and communicate on a deeper level with her.