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post #76 of 198 (permalink) Old 12-11-2016, 12:11 AM
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So my question to men... you start dating this awesome girl and she let's say... gives you oral all the time and swallows every time or let's you go on her face and loves it, can you see this as a serious relationship?
The answer is yes! To the point that I married two women who did all of that and much more very early on into our relationships. In fact I wouldn't marry anyone who didn't enjoy doing all of that and more.

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Some men do, some men don't. Much like women, it all depends on what is important to them in a relationship, and the trick is picking someone on the same page, looking for the same things.

For myself, an active and intense sex life is a very important part of any relationship I would want to be in.
Some do, some don't.

Sometimes some women so aggressive can be irritating, especially if it's all "me, me, me" eg saying things like "if you go to work this morning then you don't love me", or if she's literally crawling over you or groping you as you're talking in public or to friends.
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Some possibilities with your cousin:


1. She may be needy. In between these steamy sex sessions, she may be calling the guy too much; showing up at work uninvited; and may be, in general, having a "you owe me now" kind of behavior with these guys.

2. How does she dress and behave in public? If it's provocative, well she's giving a lot away to every guy already. and she's upping the expectations of the guy who will agree to have sex with her. .......so if he was already primed to expect swallowing..... because she does a funny thing with her mouth when she's talking to a target......well, then, a facial isn't that big a leap for the guy on this occasion.

3. As most men will tell you, it's easy to get a guy in bed. So I would not even consider that an accomplishment as a step toward a long term satisfying relationship. Katie, your opening post seemed to suggest that. Your cousin may assume it as well.

4. She may also have skewed expectations. She may assume that because she can get a "10" in bed that she can get a "10" to the alter or at least in an LTR.

5. Sadly, your cousin may assume that she's being herself, being authentic, like the relationship and other self-help books tell you to be. A little bit of mystery, detachment and unavailability will go a long way in building an LTR. Not the "you can do my face" routine.
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She wants a serious relationship for sure. She just doesn't get why it never works out. I'm the opposite, I'm a nice Christian girl who believes holding out for the "girl one" is a better approach to winning a respectful man.
Yep married one of them. Stale boring sex for 35 years.
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This behaviour is more common in girls who think that with just their personality and looks they can't get a real good looking man.I have never met a girl who would be classed as a nine or a ten who would behave like this,they may but not on a first date.If the girl has self confidence issues whether real or imagined then this behaviour is more common.
If she was given a clean slate so to speak would she act any differently?
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I can relate! It took me a long time to realize the difference between guy totally into having sex with me and guy who actually liked me.

The first category has buckets of options. Almost every guy wants to hang with someone fun, adventurous, sexual for at least a short while. The second category has very few options. That was pretty hard on my ego and I thought there was something wrong with me ... until I realized that the second category is always harder to fill.

Finding that magical combo of someone who was into me that I was also into? I was getting pretty convinced it was impossible. But eventually I met him, and we're 20 years in.
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Ok this is an embarrassing topic but let me prefaces that this is not about me but my cousin.
My cousin is late 20s and has never had problems getting men. The problem is escalating it to a serious relationship. I personally think it's bc she LOVES sex and is aggressive and is a "freak" too early in the relationship that men dont respect her and no longer view her as a wife or mother type. So my question to men... you start dating this awesome girl and she let's say... gives you oral all the time and swallows every time or let's you go on her face and loves it, can you see this as a serious relationship? Is this marriage material? It seems from watching her that the relationship starts out so heavy in sex and it stays all about sex and doesn't develop into a more adult serious relationship.
IMO, deep love and FRIENDSHIP can arise in any situation so why separate ****ty sex from those deeper and longer lasting qualities? Why can't a couple deeply love and respect each other NO MATTER what their sexual preferences are? Why is a "****" not a wife, mother or life partner? What does intense, exciting, ****ty sex have to do with being an honorable, respectful and ADEQUATE parent or FRIENDLY wife?
I'd rather have (and did have) a FRIENDLY ****ty sex partner who both loved and respected me than an ignorant square who is utterly incapable of love, respect and FRIENDSHIP (and I've had that as well!).
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Yep married one of them. Stale boring sex for 35 years.
Live and learn and be surprised that things worked out the way they did.
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I don't see a woman who does this as a slvt. I mean, I let women cum in my mouth when I'm doing cunnilingus on them. Does that make me a slvt?

It would be rather rude for me to stop right at the moment of my sex partner's climax. I definitely would probably not get another date with her.

We have to avoid double standards...in both directions.
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I don't see a woman who does this as a slvt. I mean, I let women cum in my mouth when I'm doing cunnilingus on them. Does that make me a slvt?
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Does that make me a slvt?

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If you frequently wear assless chaps ... yes ...
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Does that make me a slvt?
Slütty sex vs being a slüt, what's the distinction?



Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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Slütty sex vs being a slüt, what's the distinction?
If you are married, it doesn't count right?

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This is an interesting read for it's conflicting information.

I remember reading a different thread on TAM where a woman mentioned she had waited longer to have sex with her husband than with her other partners because she really liked him and didn't want to ruin it. Her statement caused a lot of backlash from many male posters who felt like she unfairly made her spouse work hard for something she had freely given away to her previous lovers.

Now on this thread, we have an extremely sexual woman who is being advised to 'pace herself' sexually with her partners and check her slvttiness as that'll keep her from finding a quality guy.

Like I said. ...interesting read.



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