Re: Men, if you do *not* care how much money
I do care - I expect an adult to be able to fully support themselves from their work, even if they don't have assets to show for it. I would expect that to continue in marriage, unless there is a mutual agreement for some other arrangement, or if there is illness or disability. Money matters, but other things matter more; if she has a lot of money, but lacks in compatibility, the money won't compensate for those shortcomings.
We feel the same about this. And when she has been ill/disabled, she has fought to get well and back to work. She doesn't like being dependent even if I think the circumstances justify it - or as she puts it, she doesn't want to be a poodle.
Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
CELIBACY IS NOT HEREDITARY.