Originally Posted by UnicornCupcake View Post
I'm amazed how low "having a job" is for a lot of the men, lol. I didn't say a career I just said a job.. as in she WORKS. How can that be less important than sex? No wonder there are so many Sugar Babies out there taking advantage of old, lonely men, lol.
Sex may be at the top of their list, but at the end of the day, it seems most would still prefer a 2nd paycheck coming in.
Unicorn, one of your biggest problems is that like most women, you're expected to do it all
. You're expected to work outside the home, you're expected to do the clear majority
of the work inside the home, you're expected to provide constant attention and adoration to your husband, you're expected to be a sex kitten for him, you're expected to spend 3 hours watching a soccer game 3 nights a week and if you choose to have kids, you'll be expected to be Super Mom on TOP of all of that. And this is why most women are SO damned exhausted by the time they get the 'luxury' of falling into bed every night.
You need to stop seeing HIS occasional contribution inside the home as 'helping' you
. He lives there too
and you both work full time. That means he's RESPONSIBLE for 50%
of the chores inside the house. He's not doing you a 'favor' if he does laundry or scrubs a toilet - he's doing what he SHOULD be doing. And he's clearly NOT doing his true share or you wouldn't have mentioned "HE wants a clean house etc. etc." Well if HE wants it, he can damned well do 50% of it.
The reason I bring this up is that if you put all the domestic chores on the back-burner in order to pander to him and all his needs, the housecleaning fairy isn't going to pick up your slack. You'll just find yourself working your tail off at other
times trying to CATCH up with what you put aside and you'll very much start to resent it. It's so easy for everyone to tell you to make him a priority but that doesn't mean everything else just magically gets taken care of. It's STILL there.
I'd be sitting him down and letting him know he's going to be doing 50%
from now on. Not 20, not 15, not when it's 'convenient' for him, but 50%. When he's doing his TRUE share, then you'll have more time to cater to him.