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post #46 of 55 (permalink) Old 12-20-2016, 04:04 PM
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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

You and he can make a bunch of decent food at once and then freeze it in meal size portions. Then you can avoid heat and eat food, eat well, and not spend a ton of time cooking every day. Does he enjoy cooking?
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2 - I enjoy being pampered by her cooking, wish she would do it more often
3 - I like a neat house (Not OCD clean but not cluttered)
1 - Her income and career are important
4 - I enjoy it but as I get older it is not nearly as important
5 - My hobbies don't need spectators
I was wondering would there be a marked difference between the guys in their 20-30s, 40-50s and 50-60's in how they rank these items.
You have partially answered that question
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5. I'd never expect her to attend. In the busyness of our day free time is precious. It's all about balance.

Since you both share house work (and you're here exploring this topic) it seems neither of you are overly selfish and are concerned about the other's feelings. Do you sense he would be troubled if you didn't attend so many games?

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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

Work comes first. Cooking and cleaning and sex are somewhere in the middle. Then my hobbies are last. My kids are top priority. But I think priority also should be given to alone time with the wife too.

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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

I would rate it at the bottom. While it is important to support your spouse's hobbies, it's not as important and the rest you mentioned. If your spouse can't devote a lot of time to it, it's important that they know that you are in support of it and aren't expected to quit just because you aren't into it as much as they are.

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When my now husband and I started dating I went to EVERY single one of his games. (He plays competitive soccer and is actually on a farm team for the MLS so this isn't just a bunch of 30 year old men kicking a ball around.) At this time, we were both living at home (typical in European cultures) and therefore had way less responsibilities than we do now. Basically, I had more time to go watch. Now, we have our own house and are responsible for all of our own meals, laundry, etc. (Yay, adulting.) I don't feel overwhelmed or anything as my husband is very helpful in terms of cooking and cleaning, but to attend a soccer game after a full day's work and what not isn't as exciting as it used to be. We also play on a competitive team together and I have my own team as well. All soccer. (We're an athletic couple.) If I watch his games I'm out of the house 3 evenings a week and I just find it to be a bit much, especially if he wants a clean house, dinner made, and sexy time. I feel like I can accomplish 3 of the 5 regularly, but not always all 5 - work, cook, clean, sex, soccer.) He doesn't always attend my games (if that makes any difference), but mainly because mine are scheduled earlier and he's not always off work. I never wanted to be one of those ghost wives... The ones you never see at the games. I also never wanted to be a slob and serve her man heat and eat style meals in a messy home. (I enjoy domestic duties most of the time so I don't always see it as a vacation to watch instead of cooking or cleaning.) Anyway, I'm trying to find more balance.

Can you rate the following in order of what's the most important to you? (1 being the most important.)
1. Work (as in your wife has a job, lol)
2. Cooking (are heat and eat style meals OK or do you like to eat well?)
3. Cleaning (not just a quick wipe down of the kitchen, but a clean home you can be proud of)
4. Sex (self explanatory)
5. Support for your hobbies (your wife as a spectator)

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1. Work - two incomes needed today
2. Sex - she has a very low sex drive.......
3. Cleaning - I do most of it
4. Cooking - we both cook
5. Hobbies - doesn't matter to me.

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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

1. Work - You can't do anything without finances, so this is paramount.

2. Sex - I'm HD. Nuff said.

3. Cleaning - I'm a collector, so I must have organization. Additionally, I do my own laundry, my share of the cleaning and all of the yard maintenance. She cleans the bathroom because she takes 3 showers a day.

4. Cooking - I eat for sustenance. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy certain dishes, but I don't center my life around food. Honestly, if I didn't have to eat, I probably never would. That would eliminate the time-suck that is going to the bathroom.

5. Support for your hobbies (your wife as a spectator) - What I enjoy in my spare time makes me who I am as an individual. If she enjoys the same things, it's all good. We'd have something additional to share. If not, no biggie. Life goes on and I'll enjoy my hobbies by myself. For example, I enjoy attending sporting events and conventions. It's great if she goes, but I won't force her to go.
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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

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Can you rate the following in order of what's the most important to you? (1 being the most important.)
1. Work (as in your wife has a job, lol)
2. Cooking (are heat and eat style meals OK or do you like to eat well?)
3. Cleaning (not just a quick wipe down of the kitchen, but a clean home you can be proud of)
4. Sex (self explanatory)
5. Support for your hobbies (your wife as a spectator)
I asked my Husband this earlier... this was his response:

1.
2 & 3. Toss up between cooking wholesome meals and supporting his Hobbies
4. Clean house
5. me working


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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

1. Sex (no explanation needed)
2. Support for your hobbies (my wife has to allow me hobbies, not dissuade me from things i enjoy doing or otherwise monopolize my free time; whether she watches, i don't care)
3. Cleaning (if i didn't have to do 90% of the housework, that would be nice; also i lived in a very messy house growing up, so i value this)
4. Cooking (wife eats out all of the time; i'll never see a home-cooked meal again unless i make it but i can deal with that)
5. Work (sometimes, i wish my wife didn't work; her career is dominating our lives *sigh*)
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Re: MEN: How important is your wife's support concerning your hobbies?

Hmmm. Practically Speaking:

1. Work (as in your wife has a job, lol)
2. Kids homework (help!)
3. Family Organization
4. Support for hobbies (my wife keeping kids while I handle them)
5. Sex

And selfishly:

1. Sex
2. Support for hobbies
3. Kids Stuff
4. Work
5. Support things I do outside house.


I didn't exactly use the same items, but if I did:

1. Work (as in your wife has a job, lol)
2. Sex (self explanatory)
3. Cleaning (not just a quick wipe down of the kitchen, but a clean home you can be proud of)
4. Cooking (are heat and eat style meals OK or do you like to eat well?)
5. Support for your hobbies (your wife as a spectator)


4 kids tends to change priorities around a bit...
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