I'm an INTJ as well... actually I'm an INTj, with a very low J. so I share some traits with INTP. I've found that this personality test does a lot to figure out people's mechanisms for how they interpret and see the world, also in how they respond to it by default. However, people's character is much more about their environment, and upbringing... it has little to do with MBTI types. I'll use myself as an example:
Although I'm an INTJ, analytical and strategic to a fault... I have a very empathetic side that I'm convinced is because of the nurturing side of my mother (INFJ). She views the world similarly to how I do (leading introverted intuitive) so we communicate effortlessly about really complex ideas. However, she leads with understanding others at an emotional level. A bit psychic in how she is able to discern peoples intents and motives. She's also very uplifting and always out to help others.
So my default, hard wiring, says that I'm extremely bad at other people and emotions. I'm even a bit socially awkward... although I'd contend I'm perfect happy and normal in how I operate (rationally) within the world, others would non-the-less point out my aloofness and absent minded nature at times. My focus is on how people think. Because I was raised to consider others and put myself in their shoes. My father is an ISTJ... so I don't connect with him at all intellectually. He's smart, but he's more mechanical in his world. He is all about doing right and being fair. Systems and processes. I learned from him that sometimes it's better to keep things simple... so with people I don't know, I tend to do just that. (for what it's worth, I tend to not apply that to my postings, where I feel free to speak my mind haha).
Anyway... I've found that understanding personality types has allowed me to hone in on what traits people have, and what drives them. Certain types drive me nuts (ES mostly) but I can recognize now what motivates them and see the good intentions in the ones with positive characters. That is, an ESFJ that approaches me just to ask if I'm ok... isn't really being passive aggressive. Although I'd rather not get into small talk with them, to feed their desire for everyone to be social... I understand they are approaching me out of their own concern for me. So I have learned to just engage for a small time being, and start smiling at those types, whenever I make eye contact... because the INTJ stare (deep in thoughts) tends to freak them out